"Luxembourg Parents for Equal Shared Parenting-Alternating Residence Law After Separation"

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"Mir wëlle bleiwe wat mir sinn an mir kënnen e Beispill fir den Rescht vun Europa sinn." --- "We want to remain what we are and we can be an example for the rest of Europe".

FAD - Fathers Against Discrimination a.s.b.l. "Both Parents for All Children™" is reaching out to all people of good will asking for support. Especially to women of all ages, LGBTI, feminist groups, men, fathers and everyone who really care for gender equality of chance and a well-being of children.

The society and family life in Luxembourg is in distress. With a population of a little over 600,000, we are one of the smallest nations in Europe but with one of the most advanced economies and with one of the highest population growth. Unfortunately, also with one of the highest divorce rates in the world.

Divorce is a dramatic life change, at the time it happens and then for the rest of the lives for those involved. It leaves a trace and has long-term effect on children when they are eventually adults themselves. The increase in divorce rate indicates galloping social shift presenting serious problem to the society and Luxembourg future in general. Thousands of children currently under age of 12 will be raised in more broken families than ever before. We must offer legislative changes and legal frame to assure these kids are to be brought up with support and family values. Among number of different elements and measures to take Equal Shared Parenting - Alternating Residence is a key component protecting the quality of upbringing.

LET'S MAKE IT HAPPEN --- this is the new Luxembourg signature. We can see it all over the country.

We want to be a modern, dynamic and open minded society, competitive financial center, innovative and environment friendly economy with number of government initiatives such as establishing Luxembourg Space Agency, legalizing cannabis, same sex marriages, adoption of children by homosexual couples, attempt of introducing third gender, building new tram, new football stadium etc. yet we fail to assure parental-gender equality in Luxembourg institutions that could STOP violation of children's rights in Luxembourg Family Courts. 

A CHILD SHOULD NEVER BE DEPRIVED OF HIS NATURAL HUMAN RIGHT TO FAMILY LIFE AND EQUAL ACCESS TO BOTH PARENTS. NOR DOES ANYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE WHICH OF THE PARENTS' LOVE HAS MORE VALUE. 

Children are the most precious and the most important elements of our society. They are because they are our future. Parents have eternal rights, duties and responsibilities with regard to their children. This goes equally for both father and mother. Parents are to look after their children but children are not a property of neither parent. As a matter of fact they are not a property of anyone. They are not half-people as some adults think. They are just like us adults, only better. They have dreams, needs and feelings.

For a parent and child, being together is an essential part of family life. Their separation has irremediable negative effects on their relationship and the up-bringing of the children. Equality between parents must be guaranteed and promoted from the moment the child arrives.

Decisions of Luxembourg Family Courts after separation of parents, assigning children to one of the parents during custody hearings using template approach and without consideration for family life, ignoring gender-parental equality and children's rights stand in violation of numerous conventions and international legal instruments including:

  • Article 3(3) of the Treaty on European Union established in 1992 to "combat social exclusion and discrimination, to promote social justice and protection, equality between women and men, solidarity between generations and protection of the rights of the child".
  • Article 24 of the Charter of Fundamental Rights of the European Union introduced as part of the Treaty of Lisbon in 2009 "to guarantee the protection of the rights of the child by the EU institutions and by EU countries when implementing EU law".
  • The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child from 1989. The first universal instrument of a legally binding nature to address the rights of the child. There are currently 193 parties to the Convention including all 28 members of the EU. Although the Convention addresses the civil, political, social, economic and cultural rights of children there are continuous examples of violations of the children’s rights across all EU members states including Luxembourg.
  • Article 8 of the European Convention on Human Rights ratified by Luxembourg in 1953 providing a right to respect for one's "private and family life, his home and his correspondence".

Luxembourg courts' inconsideration for family life is unfair to women who need their partners in helping them taking care of their children, it is unfair to men who want to have equal rights as parents to look after their children and have active presence in their lives but most importantly ignores children's voice, their fundamental right to freely express themselves as well as unquestionable need for equal access to both parents. This itself violates 1989 Convention on the Rights of the Child ratified by Luxembourg in 1993 as well as numerous above-mentioned international legal instruments. 

In order to present the magnitude of the problem below can be found an example of one of many scandalous, bias and discriminatory decisions from the Luxembourg Family Court - The decision of judge Pascale DUMONG from 2017

It has been over 10 years since the introduction of Equal Shared Parenting - Alternating Residence Law in Belgium. A rule and methodology proven by expert psychologists, tests and empirical studies to be the most effective in protecting children emotional stability and their upbringing following parents separation and divorce. Belgium, Denmark and other modern countries in Europe set example for Luxembourg and the rest of Europe.

Judges of the Luxembourg Family Court being a chosen group of individuals when in charge of children custody proceedings decide about children’s future and their well-being. Following the changes in the Luxembourg Civil Code introduced on November 1st, 2018 Luxembourg judges have a legal instrument in their hands to do the right thing. Article 378-1 of the Luxembourg Civil Code allows immediate introduction of Equal Shared Parenting – Alternating Residence in the best interest of the children but the model is not a rule and rarely considered in Luxembourg.

In 2015 European Council voted on Resolution 2079 calling all EU member states to introduce Equal Shared Parenting as base for Family Law and a rule for children custody proceedings. So far, FAD has been unable to obtain explanation why after 3 years from the European Council vote Luxembourg Parliament has still not yet voted on the Resolution calling for gender equality in Luxembourg. 

The reasons behind the non-vote of the Luxembourg Parliament on the European Council Resolution 2079 remain a mystery, especially since the Resolution 2079 was initiated in 2015 by Ms. Françoise HETTO-GAASCH, Luxembourg politician (CSV), former Minister of Equal Rights Between Woman & Men, past and present member of the Luxembourg Parliament.

FOLLOWING SEPARATION OF PARENTS EQUAL SHARED PARENTING – ALTERNATING RESIDENCE IS THE ONLY SOLUTION PROTECTING THE KIDS BY REMOVING POSSIBILITY FOR EITHER PARENT TO USE THEM AS AN INSTRUMENT OF BLACKMAIL. BEHAVIOR THAT IN SEVERE CASES CAN LEAD TO PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME (PAS) AND DRASTIC EMOTIONAL ABUSE OF CHILDREN.

Following parents' separation Equal Shared Parenting - Alternating Residence can and should be introduced in Luxembourg as law, default rule and a starting point for all custody hearings in the best interest of the children. 

FAD - Fathers Against Discrimination a.s.b.l. "Both Parents fo All Children™" is asking for your support to speak up and sign FAD Petition allowing us to present the signatures to the Luxembourg Government and Luxembourg Parliament with an aim to: 

Call all members of the Luxembourg Parliament to vote on the European Council Resolution 2079 and Ministry of Justice Sam TANSON with the Luxembourg Government led by Prime Minister Xavier BETTEL to introduce changes in the Family Law making Equal Shared Parenting - Alternating Residence become a starting point and the default rule for all custody proceedings in Luxembourg. 

Help us do the right thing, support us and protect the children.

Patryk P. RYBIŃSKI, President, FAD - Fathers Against Discrimination a.s.b.l. “Both Parents for All Children™” - 29, Boulevard Prince Henri, L-1724 Luxembourg, Luxembourg        __________________________________________________________________

Who are we?

FAD – Fathers Against Discrimination a.s.b.l. “Both Parents for All Children™” is a non-profit organization established and based in Luxembourg with offices at 29, Boulevard Prince Henri, L-1724 Luxembourg (R.C.S: F12482) and governed by the Law of 21 April 1928 on Non-Profit Organizations and Foundations.

Our organization has been created to become a platform of dialog to promote gender equality of chance for both parents, to stop violation of children’s rights, to assure their well-being, to raise awareness of gender inequality and parental discrimination in Luxembourg courts.

Here is the list of the 12 reasons why FAD has been established:    

1. To create a platform of dialog to promote gender equality of chance in all aspects of the Luxembourg society.

2. To address the importance of family values promoting the positive impact a full and healthy family has on the well-being of children.

3. To support the rights of fathers and mothers to equal parenthood and successful professional career.

4. To raise social awareness about the need of fathers’ presence during the upbringing of children.

5. To expose discrimination of fathers and violation of children’s rights in Luxembourg courts.

6. To become educational center providing evidence about the importance and relevance of the 50/50 Equal Shared Parenting – Alternating Residence model (50/50 Résidence alternée) during separation and after divorce.

7. To convince Luxembourg government to recognize European Council Resolution 2079 and introduce 50/50 Equal Shared Parenting – Alternating Residence model (50/50 Résidence alternée) not as an option but a starting point and default rule for all children custody proceedings in Luxembourg.

8. To represent families in distress and assure that the rights of children for freedom of expression under the Article 24 of the Charter of Fundamental Rights of the European Union are not violated in Luxembourg.

9. To assure the rights of fathers for family life in accordance with the European Convention on Human Rights are guaranteed in Luxembourg.

10. To provide guidance to fathers about true meaning of being a father and protect their rights to equal presence in children’s lives during separation and after divorce.

11. To communicate the need for creating a shelter for men, boys and fathers with children, victims of domestic violence seeking help, assistance and asylum. If not possible to create a brand new facility, conversion of one of the 10 existing shelters available only to women, girls and mothers and creating the very 1st shelter for men, boys and fathers in Luxembourg

12. To be the first point of contact between Luxembourg fathers and other fathers’ rights organizations in different jurisdictions.