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GRANT GRANDPARENTS AND FAMILY RIGHTS AND REPRESENTATION TO RELATED MINOR CHILDREN.

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If the state can take children in extreme circumstance and support them why can't they make any efforts in helping them stay with their families?

Is it really that much cheaper for the state to raise our children than to help family stay together? Then why can't they put the same effort in keeping children with their families as they do in putting them in states custody?. In a world surrounded by drugs and violence a child"s family bonds may be the only security and safe haven they know. Tennessee is fully aware of the children caught up in the drug and domestic violence epidemic that is tearing our state apart.  Without listening to the people enduring and fighting these battles how can they take the stronghold needed to overcome and conquer them?  If this state had more interest in protecting and preserving families, I may have been able to keep my family together. But because of the laws today I was not even able to explain my grandchildren's situation much less do anything to help them keep their family. Government funded programs like legal services does not even represent grandparents in the ability to maintain a relationship by visitation. Most grandparents live on a fixed income and can not afford the legal expenses it takes to fight for a child.  I don't believe we should have to fight for rights to our own children.

With no assistance and no rights not only is our foundation broken by destroying our families but Tennessee's foundation is broken as well.

Even if someone were to rush in right now and fix what has been broken the cracks will always show. 

It's been 4 yrs since we've seen or even spoke to our grandchildren.  As difficult as it is to tell our story we have come to realize without it there will be less possibility of change and/or laws put in place to protect others from such tragedy. A lot could have been prevented had Tennessee been a grandparents state and helped in keeping relationships between grandparents, parents, and their children. We pray and are patiently waiting for justice not for ourselves, but our grandchildren and family. 

When I learned of my daughter going to a suboxone clinic I had no Idea what it was. I myself didn't understand the reason for it but apparently my daughter did. It didn't take much of her new found "care" signs started to show of a very unhealthy doctor/patient relationship on a then 23 yrs old impressionable young woman.  Soon we were trying to convince my daughter she had a problem and needed help while watching her steadily widdle down to skin and bones.  

However "recovery" was her problem.  

With her having three small children in the home we took action to try to make her get help.What lied ahead stole our daughter, grandchildren, and everything we loved. Everyone was aware of the privileged medical care our daughter was actually getting and the domestic violence within her home. She was severely broken and needed help. However the other parties involved were more interested in covering their wrongdoings and the issues at hand were kept & deceived from the courts. Right down to her own attorney. My daughter couldn't get the professional help and skills she needed to become a strong sober woman again and mother to her children. Once the truth was covered and we were excluded from court they deliberately kept our children from us. Children need all the family & love they can get.

Being the maternal grandparent our grandchildren were raised in and around our home. My oldest grandchild was nine when this happened, and had lived in our home since birth. We even had temporary guardianship of him. I know this will cause irreparable damage. You can't just rip the foundation from children and expect they will grow up to be strong successful adults.

I initially filed the petition for custody of my grandchildren and tried to get my daughter and their father help. However I have a son as well who was going through a horrific surgery and had taken staph. I asked the other grandparents to help and believed them when they told me "not to worry about a thing". However they had no plans of actually helping, but intentionally left me out of the court hearing so they could hide the issues of domestic violence, etc. and keep our grandchildren.  We had no lawyer to speak for us and weren't even granted another court date.  As soon as I was able I went back to refile the petition and the clerk said "my petition was dismissed with prejudice". She advised that meant I could no longer file another petition in that courthouse regarding the children. I immediately turned to my son and asked he file one.  I was desperate to see my babies. The clerk said my son couldn't either.  I had not seen the children and was not only in a panic over what they had been through, I was now severely heartbroken and depressed. I broke down begging what could I do to see the children.The clerk advised if I wanted to see my grandchildren again, "I needed to tell my daughter to straighten up".  Listen, I already was aware my daughter needed to straighten up. She also needed help with the domestic violence, sexual misconduct, and addiction she was now living with daily. There seemed to be no help available and no lawyer or programs to help me understand what was happening.

I believed I would no longer see my babies again and here we are years later...I haven't.

This has got to change.

Meanwhile the "good" doctor was telling my daughter I couldn't do anything about the relationship and continued. He deliberately sabotaged our efforts and kept my daughter from getting the help she needed. She is and always will be his victim.  

My daughter became pregnant about a year later and our new grandbaby "Ms. Luvleigh" was born. She suffered a stroke and was kept in NICU for 6 weeks for drug addiction, and is permanently disabled.  She was born on July 1, 2014. The very day TN law took effect "mother's could be charged for drug addicted babies".  It's a shame but that law is no longer in effect. I believe this was the time my daughter would have gotten the help she needed. I was Furious that after all we had done and another baby get hurt.  I once again set out more determined than ever to expose the whole doctor/patient thing.  I knew this would never end, besides had he not lied for our daughter she may have been able to get the help she needed from the very beginning and regained her children and this child would not have been injured. 

After all that is the goal to try to reunite children with their parents if they are able to care for them

We were the next closest person to our grandchildren and who they confided in for help yet because of laws today we couldn't even speak to protect them.  While they were all granted a court appointed lawyer to hide their wrong doings we couldn't get one to even help us see our grandchildren. Every lawyer we spoke with refused to take payments because we were grandparents stating the legal battle would be endless. Legal Services wouldn't help us either.  These are issues no one wants to get involved with and this has been the fight of our life.  That has to change or the situation with this growing problem will never get any better. 

We hope one day to change the grandparents laws in the state of Tennessee along with help offered to families and children who live with a loved one's Drug addiction and/or domestic violence. As far as the misconduct by the doctor, I believe most would not take advantage of a young woman in that manner. What he did was criminal. I believe if my daughter had the professional help she needed to recognize that, she may have been able to stop him from doing it to another. However when she confided in DHS and Children's Services not only was no action taken but minimal help was offered. We need more programs to help victims in all of these situations.

Our site was built on our pocket change over the last 4 1/2 years in order to fight for change. We put heart and soul into www.printspixnremix.com not just for our children but for all families that hurt over the loss of a child. We have pictures posted on our site and they all show the love we express and feel for our babies. No one should suffer such an unnecessary hurt. 

Our joy in life has been stolen and we had to finally accept we had to give it completely to our Lord.  We believe he is working in our favor and we will only fail if we quit.

Please join us in asking our Governor to change these laws and provide assistance in protecting and preserving families in Tennessee.  Until we can recognize family is the backbone to overcoming so many of these issues we are fighting a losing battle. There should be more programs to keep children with family than in states custody. I was willing to succumb to their every requirement but they offered no assistance for that.

Shouldn't they have been more devoted to helping me keep my family together than tearing us apart?

I don't believe for one minute a stranger could love my babies more than I do. Every grandparent should be allowed to speak and have representation if needed at any court hearing regarding their children. Family should never be denied access to visitation.

The bible says "Children's children are the crown of the aged, and parents are the pride of their children". Proverbs 17:6

There is a definite need for change in what has become Tennessee's biggest epidemics. 

 

NONI WILL YOU HELP ME?

I’M AFRAID NO ONE WILL.

DADDY IS RAISING HELL

MOMA’S TOOK A PILL.

NONI WILL YOU HELP ME?

I CAN’T SLEEP AT NIGHT.

WHEN EVERYTHING GETS QUIET

THAT’S WHEN THEY FUSS & FIGHT.

NONI WILL YOU HELP ME?

IT’S YOUR HOUSE I WANT TO STAY.

THERE’S ALWAYS LOTS OF FOOD,

I LOVE IT WHEN WE PLAY.

NONI WILL YOU HELP ME?

YOU PROMISE NOT TO LIE?

TELL THEM STOP THE FIGHTING,

IT’S NO LONGER GOING TO FLY.

NONI, WILL YOU HELP ME?

MAKE THE NOISE ALL STOP.

IF THEY DON’T WANT TO LISTEN,

SIMPLY CALL THE COPS.

NONI WILL YOU HELP ME?

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN SO LONG?

YOU SAID YOU’D NEVER STOP,

I’M PRAYING NOTHINGS WRONG.

NONI WILL YOU HELP ME?

THEY SAY YOU WENT AWAY.

IS IT BECAUSE OF ME?

OR WHAT I TOLD YOU TO SAY?

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

I DID THE BEST I COULD.

PEOPLE DIDN’T SEEM TO LISTEN,

LIKE I THOUGHT THEY WOULD.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

I’M TRYING WITH ALL MY MIGHT.

I THOUGHT OTHERS WOULD STAND BESIDE US,

DOING WHAT THEY KNEW WAS RIGHT.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME

I TOLD THEM ALL FOR THEE,

BUT THEY WERE BEING SELFISH

AND DIDN'T CARE ABOUT YOU AND ME.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

I PRAY IT’S NOT TO LATE.

I PROMISE I DIDN’T KNOW,

IT’S NOT A GRANDPARENT’S STATE.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

IT IS HARD WHAT I MUST SAY.

BECAUSE I’M ONLY A GRANDPARENT,

I CAN’T SEE YOU TODAY.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

I VOW I AM STILL HERE.

BE PATIENT NOW MY BABY,

THIS COULD TAKE SEVERAL YEARS.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

I’LL NEVER GIVE UP ON YOU.

BUT THERE’S A STATUE OF LIMITATIONS,

AND THEY SAY OUR TIME IS THROUGH.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

IT HURTS SO BAD INSIDE.

TO KNOW THE LOVE THEY STOLE,

SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY LIED.

CHILD PLEASE LISTEN TO ME,

THE DAY WILL COME REAL SOON.

WHEN I’LL HOLD YOU IN MY ARMS,

AND KISS YOU TO THE MOON.



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