Justice in Family Court Stop Parental Alienation

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Andrew Pattarelli
3 years ago
There is no way anything is will improve unless you take responsibility and DO SOMETHING!

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Aaliyah Velazquez
3 years ago
I love you Jaylina & Nadelynn - Aaliyah

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Johanna Woods
3 years ago
I know Shayna from college. I used to listen to her sadness because of her separation from her children. She used to tell me how the system failed her and I used to tell her don’t ever give up and keep fighting. And so she is still fighting. It has been too many years. A person with a great heart, no drug issues, and there emotionally and physically wanting the best for her kids. I don’t understand how can this go on.

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Anita Kanitz
3 years ago
“To any survivor who may be doubting whether what they’ve experienced is truly abuse, remember that emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse will never be, and should never be, considered part of the messy equation of a normal relationship. As both metal health professionals and survivors can attest to, the traumatic highs and lows of being with a narcissist, a sociopath, or a psychopath are not the natural highs and lows of regular relationships. That suggestion is quite damaging to society and to survivors all around the world.”
― Shahida Arabi, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

“Hit me again, and I'll report you to the authorities. Follow me to my bed one more time, and I swear to the gods, I'll search for the most painful way to murder you.”
― Kien Nguyen, The Unwanted: A Memoir of Childhood

“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways in which he has been good to her. Friends say: “He treats you that way because he can get away with it. I would never let someone treat me that way.” But she knows that the times when she puts her foot down the most firmly, he responds by becoming his angriest and most intimidating. When she stands up to him, he makes her pay for it—sooner or later. Friends say: “Leave him.” But she knows it won’t be that easy. He will promise to change. He’ll get friends and relatives to feel sorry for him and pressure her to give him another chance. He’ll get severely depressed, causing her to worry whether he’ll be all right. And, depending on what style of abuser he is, she may know that he will become dangerous when she tries to leave him. She may even be concerned that he will try to take her children away from her, as some abusers do.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“We don’t necessarily know how to hear stories about any kind of violence, because it is hard to accept that violence is as simple as it is complicated, that you can love someone who hurts you, that you can stay with someone who hurts you, that you can be hurt by someone who loves you, that you can be hurt by a complete stranger, that you can be hurt in so many terrible, intimate ways.”
― Roxane Gay, Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body

Shocking domestic murder cases:

Murder of Kelly Anne Bates:

Kelly Anne Bates (18 May 1978 – 16 April 1996) was a British teenager who was murdered in Manchester on 16 April 1996 when aged 17. She was tortured over a period of four weeks, including having her eyes gouged from their sockets up to three weeks before her death, by her partner James Patterson Smith (born c. 1948) before being drowned in a bathtub.
The murder inquiry was headed by Detective Sergeant Joseph Monaghan of Greater Manchester Police, who said: "I have been in the police force for 15 years and have never seen a case as horrific as this." William Lawler, the pathologist who examined Bates' body, described her injuries as "the worst he had seen on a murder victim". Smith, a misogynist with a history of violence and torture against former sexual partners, denied murdering Bates but was convicted and sentenced to life imprisonment on 19 November 1997.
On 16 April 1996 Smith entered a police station and said that he had accidentally killed his girlfriend during an argument in the bath, claiming that she had inhaled bathwater and died despite his attempts to resuscitate her. He also claimed that she often pretended to be unconscious.Police attended Smith's address and found Bates' naked body in a bedroom. Bates' blood was found in every room of the house, and a post-mortem examination revealed over 150 separate injuries on her body. During the last month of her life she had been kept bound in the house, sometimes tied by her hair to radiators or chairs, and at other times with a ligature around her neck. William Lawler, the Home Office pathologist who examined her body, said: "In my career, I have examined almost 600 victims of homicide but I have never come across injuries so extensive."

The following injuries were found on Bates' body:

Scalding to her buttocks and left leg
Burns on her thigh caused by the application of a hot iron
A fractured arm
Multiple stab wounds caused by knives, forks and scissors
Stab wounds inside her mouth
Crush injuries to both hands
Mutilation of her ears, nose, eyebrows, mouth, lips and genitalia
Wounds caused by a spade and pruning shears
Both eyes gouged out
Later stab wounds to the empty eye sockets
Partial scalping

The pathologist determined that her eyes had been removed "not less than five days and not more than three weeks before her death". She had been starved, having lost around 20 kg in weight, and had not received water for several days before her death. Peter Openshaw, the prosecutor in Smith's trial, said: "It was as if he deliberately disfigured her, causing her the utmost pain, distress and degradation ... The injuries were not the result of one sudden eruption of violence, they must have been caused over a long period [and] were so extensive and so terrible that the defendant must have deliberately and systematically tortured the girl." The cause of death was drowning, immediately prior to which she had been beaten about the head with a shower head. Openshaw said that "Her death must have been a merciful end to her torment".

Mumtahina Jannat:

Strangled in her east London home

Mumtahina Jannat, 29 years old, was killed by her abusive husband, Abdul Kadir, on 5 July 2011. Kadir, 49, was found guilty of murder and sentenced to life imprisonment, to serve a minimum of 17 years.

Jannat, known as Ruma, was 16 when she married the wealthy Kadir in Bangladesh, but from their wedding night until her death she suffered near continual abuse. They moved to the UK in 2002. “She had such a sweet demeanour. She wanted to be surrounded by books,” said Onjali Rauf, Jannat’s niece.

Kadir became infuriated by her independence, and Jannat confided to her family that he had drugged, beaten and raped her. She was forced to give up a college course and driving lessons. Shortly after their second child was born, Kadir kicked her in the stomach after a caesarean section, causing the stitches to open up.

Struggling with pressures of “family honour”, she endured abuse for years, but when he turned his violence towards her children, she sought help. and fled to a refuge in 2005. With an injunction in place, she tried to build a new life, “She was so proud to get her citizenship certificate in the UK, and felt it was her first step towards becoming an educated woman,” said Rauf. But Kadir did not let go, and a three-year battle over his contact with the children wore Jannat down. Every time she made a renewed effort to break free, he would threaten her family or use the children to get back into her life.

In an attempt to rid herself of Kadir, Jannat applied for sole custody of the children. She told the judge: “I’m scared he will kill me.” The judge said she was being silly. “Ruma gave up then: she just lost hope,” said Rauf.

Kadir was able to force his way back into her home. The abuse continued, and in early 2011 Jannat made her final bid for freedom, telling him he couldn’t return. Two days later she was seen dropping her daughter off at school. An hour and a half later Kadir rang his brother to say: “I’m in trouble.” Jannat had been strangled with her own scarf.

Kadir denied murder, saying the death had been accidental. A jury took less than an hour to return a guilty verdict.

Oanna Simpson:

Battered to death in Ascot,U.K:

Joanna Simpson, 46 years, was killed by her estranged husband, Robert Brown, in her home in 2010. Brown was convicted of manslaughter in 2011 and is serving a 26-year sentence.

Simpson studied business at Bath University before embarking on a successful career in marketing. She met Brown, a BA pilot, in 1998 and, after a short romance, they married.

Simpson quickly regretted the decision. “Jo phoned me from her honeymoon and she knew she’d made a mistake,” said her mother, Diana Parkes.

The couple had two children and lived in Ascot. The relationship was unhappy, however. “Jo was loving and generous, everybody loved her – except her husband. Brown was cold, arrogant, rude,” said Parkes. “He isolated her and monitored her movements.” In 2007, Brown threatened to kill Joanna, putting a knife to her throat. He claimed, wrongly, that she was having an affair. “He said: ‘If you ever tell anyone, it will be the worse for you’. Jo was too scared to tell the police,” said Parkes.

Simpson obtained an injunction and started divorce proceedings, though she continued to live in fear. She was well-off and the couple had signed a prenuptial agreement. During the divorce Brown claimed for £800,000, having refused Jo’s offer of £500,000. In October 2010 the supreme court ruled that prenups were legally enforceable. Parkes believed that sealed her daughter’s fate: “He killed her for greed.”

On 31 October, Brown drove their children back to Simpson’s after a visit. He took a hammer in a bag and, allowed into her home, killed her with it. Their children could hear the blows. Brown put her body into the back of his car, took the CCTV from the house and buried her in a grave in Windsor Great Park. The next day he called the police, claiming they had had a “domestic argument”.

Brown admitted manslaughter on the grounds of diminished responsibility, but denied murder, leaving Simpson’s family feeling cheated because they believed evidence that he had planned to kill her was strong. “There was a massive miscarriage of justice. Brown told lies, the jury felt sorry for him, whereas Jo was portrayed as evil, I didn’t recognise her. Jo’s children have been failed,” said Parkes. She is determined that her daughter’s death should not be forgotten.Her family and friends set up The Joanna Simpson Foundation to campaign for changes to public policy and raise funds to improve the care of children affected by domestic abuse and homicide.

Samantha Sykes:

Stabbed to death in Wakefield,U.K:

Samantha Sykes, 18, and Kimberley Frank, 17, were killed on 9 March 2012 in a flat in Wakefield. Ahmad Otak was found guilty of their murder and sentenced to life imprisonment.

Otak came to the UK from Afghanistan to claim asylum in 2007. He said he was 15 and was placed in a children’s home, where he met sisters Elisa and Kimberley Frank, who were then 13 and 12. Elisa and Otak formed an on/off relationship that continued when they both left the home.

Little is known about Otak’s past in Afghanistan, but here he was controlling and violent. He made repeated threats to Frank that, if she ever left him, he would kill her, her family and friends. He regularly carried a knife, and his girlfriend was too frightened to report the abuse to the police.

Her friend, Sykes, was not intimidated. Having grown up in a secure family home, Sykes was independent-minded, and, when Frank left Otak for the first time in 2011 and he threatened to throw acid in her face, sew up her mouth and petrol-bomb her mother’s house, Sykes reported Otak to the police and to the UK Border Agency. “But nobody ever challenged Otak about his behaviour,” said her mother, Julie Warren-Sykes.

Frank left Otak in February 2012. On the day of the murders, she had asked him to return her possessions. Realising the relationship really had ended, he bought a carving knife, and went to Frank’s home. As he entered, he asked Elisa if she would go back to him and when she answered “definitely not”, he attacked Kimberley.

Otak then made Elisa phone Sykes, asking her to come to the flat to help. When she arrived and came into the hallway Otak set upon her with the knife, using such force that a rib was split and her neck was cut, severing the jugular and carotid artery. After the killings Otak took Elisa hostage, driving to Dover in an effort to escape to France. He was arrested when another asylum seeker raised the alarm.

The serious case review into Kimberley Frank’s murder raised concerns around the absence of a coordinated agency response. “There were lots of opportunities that were missed, and it’s likely that, had appropriate action taken place, these murders could have been prevented,” said Warren-Sykes.

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corrine Scott
3 years ago
Corrine Scott

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Al-Tariq Hill
3 years ago
She works full time, has a home filled with love.