Equal & Fair Coparenting & Financial Responsibilty for children from a broken family

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Becoming a single parent a year ago, I have learned that it has become acceptable in Irish society that in most cases when a relationship breaks down the majority of the responsibility around caregiving & finances in relation to the child/children is placed on one parent (usually the mother). 

Regardless of court orders or not one parent has little or no alternative to assume the majority of responsibility for the child/children. In many cases the primary care giver struggles emotionally, mentally, physically and financially. The child/children are sometimes impacted by this as well as their own feelings around the initial breakdown of their parents relationship. 

The current legal system does not enforce 'both' parents to automatically make the child/children their priority and have equal & fair responsibility for same. As the author, it is fair to say my own personal situation is very difficult at times especially given that I am full time shift working single parent however I am fully aware I am luckier than many others. 

It is beyond me that one parent needs to hope an Irish judge will side with them in wanting to be supported financially (not with silly amounts of €50 a week when the child's costs around childcare, food, medication, clothing, schooling etc exceed a lot more) and having a fair access agreement for both the single parent as the primary care giver and for the child/children. I.e. Both parents working needs to be accommodated by BOTH parents. The child/children should be provided for equally by BOTH parents. The child/children should have regular access to BOTH their parents unless in extenuating circumstances).

I would like to petition the Irish government to address these issues and write it into law that both parents are EQUALLY responsible for the child/children. 

By not imposing a law on this matter, it encourages situations whereby single parents continue to struggle to cope alone and children lose out on important relationships and in some cases material items they need. The pressure should be equal.