“Forty-two years after Dr. King was murdered, we are still a nation of inequality. People of color, women, gays, lesbians, and others are still treated as second-class citizens. Yes, things have changed but we have still not achieved equality among all humans. And nonhuman animals continue to be chattel property without any inherent value.”
― Gary L. Francione
“I think when it comes to females in the media you’ll see something that kind of upsets me which is that females are pinned up against each other more so than men. You know, for example like you never see online “vote for who has the better butt - this actor or this actor.” It’s always like this female singer and this female singer. And you get to vote. I mean, it’s daily I see these things and these polls like “let us know who’s sexier, who’s the hotter momma” and I just don’t see it like “who’s the hotter dad” you know? I think that one thing that I do believe as a feminist is that in order for us to have gender equality we have to stop making it a girl fight and we have to stop being so interested in seeing girls trying to tear each other down, it has to be more about cheering each other on as women. That’s just kind of how I feel about it.”
― Taylor Swift
“We make her bear and raise our children
And then we leave her flat for being a fat old mother hen
We tell her, home is the only place she should be
Then we complain that she's too
unworldly to be our friend”
― John Lennon
We are all the change for a better world, we have waiting for!
The enslavement of women and girls since humankind exists, is funded by the enslavement of their bodies and their sexuality. It is funded by rape culture, forced marriages, child marriages, forced child births, forced FGM, paid and unpaid rape in prostitution and pornography, marital rape, sex trade, sex slavery, denied human rigths, education, gender equality and denied contraception and abortion.Denied contraception and abortion means forced childbirths, funding of rape culture and misogyny. The best contraception is to have no intercourse with men.
Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture. Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s rights and safety.
Examples of Rape Culture
Blaming the victim (“She asked for it!”)
Trivializing sexual assault (“Boys will be boys!”)
Sexually explicit jokes
Tolerance of sexual harassment
Inflating false rape report statistics
Publicly scrutinizing a victim’s dress, mental state, motives, and history
Gratuitous gendered violence in movies and television
Defining “manhood” as dominant and sexually aggressive
Defining “womanhood” as submissive and sexually passive
Pressure on men to “score”
Pressure on women to not appear “cold”
Assuming only promiscuous women get raped
Assuming that men don’t get raped or that only “weak” men get raped
Refusing to take rape accusations seriously
Teaching women to avoid getting raped
One reason people blame a victim is to distance themselves from an unpleasant occurrence and thereby confirm their own invulnerability to the risk. By labeling or accusing the victim, others can see the victim as different from themselves. People reassure themselves by thinking, "Because I am not like her, because I do not do that, this would never happen to me." We need to help people understand that this is not a helpful reaction.
Why is it Dangerous?
Victim-blaming attitudes marginalize the victim/survivor and make it harder to come forward and report the abuse. If the survivor knows that you or society blames her for the abuse, s/he will not feel safe or comfortable coming forward and talking to you.
Victim-blaming attitudes also reinforce what the abuser has been saying all along; that it is the victim’s fault this is happening. It is NOT the victim’s fault or responsibility to fix the situation; it is the abuser’s choice. By engaging in victim-blaming attitudes, society allows the abuser to perpetrate relationship abuse or sexual assault while avoiding accountability for his/her actions.
Common excuses for another hate crime, domestic violence:
What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. It happens in all types of relationship, regardless of race, ethnic or religious group, class, disability, sexuality, lifestyle, nationality or age.
If your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, you may be in an abusive relationship. There is no excuse for abuse – it’s a crime. There are people to talk to and many organisations that can help and support you make changes, move on and take control of your life.
Domestic abuse is a result of an abuser’s desire to gain control and power. They may use a range of different tactics – physical, emotional, psychological, sexual or financial – to achieve this.
Psychological and emotional abuse
This is also known as coercive control. This type of abuse can be difficult to spot but it could include making you question your worth, controlling contact with friends and family or making you feel like you couldn’t cope on your own. You can find out more about coercive control here.
Any situation in which an individual is forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe or degrading sexual activity is sexual abuse.
Financial abuse could include controlling access to money, asking you to account for every penny spent, stopping you getting a job or spending the money allocated for other things.
Violence or threatening behaviour
Physically harming you can range from a slap to a black eye, bruises to a broken bone. In the most extreme cases it can result in death. Physical abuse doesn’t always leave visible marks or scars. Over time the violence usually gets worse. Threatening behaviour can include the threat of violence to you or other family members, destroying personal items or threats to remove your children.
Know the signs
Many people who’ve experienced domestic abuse say they didn’t recognise they were in an abusive relationship until they were out of it.
Domestic abuse isn’t always physical, and will often start with controlling behaviour. This is often disguised as concern – wanting to know where you are or who you are with for example. It may involve slowly wearing down your confidence or isolating you from family and friends. This can get worse over time and may become physical.
Realising you or someone you care about is in an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it.
Signs that you are in an abusive relationship
Your partner is violent or threatening towards you
Your partner criticises you and puts you down
Your partner is controlling about what you do, where you go, who you see or what you spend
You feel afraid of your partner
You think you are to blame for the way your partner treats you•You feel embarrassed when your friends and family see how your partner treats you
If you are in an abusive relationship there is some practical advice on how to keep yourself safe here. There are also lots of organisations ready and waiting to help.
Signs that someone you know may be in an abusive relationship
They withdraw from their circle of friends and do less with other people
They receive lots of phone calls or texts from their partner when they are not with them
They become anxious when they might be home late or plans change
They have unexplained bruises or physical injuries.
Abuse isn't always physical
Domestic abuse can involve physical violence, where an abuser harms someone leaving visible marks and scars. But it can also be psychological – something that is referred to as coercive and controlling behaviour. This type of abuse leaves no marks or scars but can cause victims to experience fear, and loss of freedom, on a daily basis.
Coercive control became a criminal offence in the UK in 2015. This means that police and courts can look for patterns of controlling behaviours rather than specific incidents of abuse or violence. If someone is found guilty of this offence they could go to prison for up to five years, receive a fine or both.
The types of behaviour associated with coercion or control can include:
Isolating a person from their friends, family, colleagues
Stalking their movements or controlling how they spend their time
Monitoring social media accounts or tracking their mobile phone
Making unreasonable demands
Taking control over aspects of a person’s life, such as where they can go, who they can see, what they wear and when they can sleep
Depriving them access to support services, such as healthcare
Repeatedly putting them down, telling them they are worthless
Taking control of a person’s finances, giving them an ‘allowance’ or forcing them to take on debts
Taking food away or limiting food, this can be connected to saying they are overweight
Making threats or using intimidation to force a change in behaviour or choices; this can include sex too
Damage to property, such as destruction of household goods and valuable personal items
Preventing them from having access to transport or from working
Coercive or controlling behaviour does not relate to a single incident – it is a purposeful pattern of incidents which takes place over time in order for one individual to exert power, control or coercion over another.
Signs of an unhealthy and controlling relationship:
You can’t do the things you want to do
In a healthy relationship, there’s an acceptance from both people that an important part of a relationship is the need for independence, as well as doing things together, such as having your own interests or separate friends. If you feel like you’re not able to have these things, or have needed to give up them up to please your partner or to avoid their bad behaviour, this may be a sign of an abusive relationship.
Your unhappiness doesn’t matter, or they contribute to it
Often abusers are unwilling to listen to why you’re unhappy or will tell you that it doesn’t matter. He or she may also put you down, say you you’re stupid and unattractive or that no one else will love you. This is emotional abuse and can affect your confidence and self-esteem. If you’re not allowed to do the things you want, or feel isolated from family and friends, talk to someone who can help.
They blame you for their behaviour
There is no excuse for domestic abuse but often abusers will blame other things. For example, they might say it’s because they had too much to drink or had taken drugs.
They may also try to diminish what’s happening – saying you deserved it or that because they didn’t hit you, it’s not abuse. They may even pretend it didn’t happen. For this reason, it can take a long time for some people to recognise they are experiencing domestic abuse. The truth is, there is no excuse for any kind of abuse and it’s never the victim’s fault. The abuser is responsible for the way they choose to behave.
But there is more violence worldwide:
There’s a large unmet need for contraception worldwide; more than 110 million women globally who want contraceptives but do not have access to them. One third of all pregnancies worldwide are unintended (80 million annually). These pregnancies lead to 20 million unsafe abortions each year with at least 70,000 women—often mothers—dying as a result. Many more, approximately 5 million women, are hospitalized annually from complications as a result of unsafe abortions. Approximately 90% of deaths from unsafe abortions and 20% of other obstetrical deaths could be avoided by increased access to effective contraception for women worldwide.Stop unwanted pregnancies and tell men and boys not to rape and abuse women.
In the United States, among the 62 million women of reproductive age, most (70 percent) are sexually active, fertile and are trying to avoid getting pregnant, yet nearly half of all pregnancies each year are unintended.
Approximately 11% of these women do not use any method currently, and this small percentage of women account for more than 50% of all unintended pregnancies. At current rates, experts estimate that at least half of all US women will experience an unintended pregnancy, and one in three will have an abortion, by age 45.
Every minute, a young woman becomes newly infected with HIV, and the vast majority of HIV infections are sexually transmitted. Women need reproductive health programs to be integrated with HIV/AIDS services, and vice-versa, for improved efficiency and effectiveness in preventing AIDS infection and unplanned pregnancy and improving maternal and child health.
The United States, through PEPFAR – the President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief (PEPFAR) – has made an unprecedented commitment to helping create an AIDS Free Generation. Yet, PEPFAR funds cannot be used to purchase family planning commodities, nor are family planning services provided at PEPFAR sites, meaning that women cannot access a full range of contraceptives at the same site where they receive HIV/AIDS testing, counseling, or treatment. Moreover, continued U.S.-funding preferences for abstinence-based programs undermine comprehensive HIV-prevention services, including the provision of condoms.
Tell U.S. leaders that HIV/AIDS treatment and prevention programs must be integrated with comprehensive sexual and reproductive health services including family planning services for women and girls.
First, well intercourse is NEVER sex for women. Only men experience rape as sexual and define it as such. Sex for men is the unilateral penetration of their penis into a woman (or anything else replacing and symbolising the female orifice) whether she thinks she wants it or not — which is the definition of rape: that he will to do it anyway and that he uses her and treats her as a receptacle, in all circumstances — it makes no difference to him experiencing it as sexual. That is, at the very least, men use women as useful objects and instruments for penetration, and women are dehumanised by this act. It is an act of violence.
As FCM pointed out some time ago, intercourse is inherently harmful to women and intentionally so, because it causes pregnancy in women. The purpose of men enforcing intercourse regularly (as in, more than once a month) onto women is because it’s the surest way to cause pregnancy and force childbearing against our will, and thereby gain control over us.
And thereby gain control over our reproductive powers. There is no way to eliminate the pregnancy risk entirely off PIV and the mitigating and harm-reduction practices such as contraception and abortion are inherently harmful, too. Reproductive harms of PIV range from pregnancy to abortion, having to take invasive, or toxic contraception, giving birth, forced child bearing and rearing and all the complications that go with them which may lead up to severe physical and emotional damage, disability, destitution, illness, or death
Sex is used as weapon, even the crappiest online definition of violence: “behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something”. Bingo. It fits: Pregnancy = may hurt, damage or kill. Intercourse = a man using his physical force to penetrate a woman.: Intention / purpose: of the act of intercourse = to cause pregnancy.: PIV is therefore intentional harm / violence. Intentional sexual harm of a man against a woman
Sex is used as weapon, even the crappiest online definition of violence: “behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something”. Bingo. It fits: Pregnancy = may hurt, damage or kill. Intercourse = a man using his physical force to penetrate a woman.: Intention / purpose: of the act of intercourse = to cause pregnancy.: PIV is therefore intentional harm / violence. Intentional sexual harm of a man against a woman through penile penetration = RAPE
Honor Killings: The United Nations Populations Fund estimates that as many as 5,000 women and girls are murdered by family members each year in so-called “honor killings” around the world. According to the United Nations Special Rapporteur on extrajudicial, summary and arbitrary executions, “honor killings” have been reported in Bangladesh, Brazil, Ecuador, Egypt, India, Israel, Italy, Jordan, Morocco, Pakistan, Sweden, Turkey, Uganda and the United Kingdom.
Female Genital Mutilation: The World Health Organization estimates that more than 200 million girls and women around the world have undergone female genital mutilation (FGM), a traditional practice that involves either the partial or total removal of the clitoris (clitoridectomy), the removal of the entire clitoris and the cutting of the labia minora (excision), or the removal of all external genitalia and the stitching together of the two sides of the vulva, leaving only a very small vaginal opening (infibulation). FGM is commonly practiced in various countries in the Middle East and Africa, though it has also been documented in Asia, the United States and Europe. At least 2 million girls every year, 6,000 per day, are at risk of undergoing FGM.
Acid Burning: In some countries, women and girls are attacked with acid as a result of family disputes or rejected sex or marriage proposals. An increasing number of such acid burnings have been reported in Bangladesh, Nigeria and Cambodia. Those who survive are permanently disfigured and/or blinded. Perpetrators of such attacks frequently escape punishment.
Dowry Death: The United Nations Children’s Fund estimates that as many as 17 women were murdered per day when their families failed to make dowry payments to the families of their husbands in India in 1997. In a report presented to the Beijing + 5 Special Session of the United Nations General Assembly, the Government of India indicated a 15.2 percent rise in dowry deaths in 1999.
These are only a few examples of violence that are committed against women and girls every day in countries around the world. Although the manifestation of violence may vary according to the economic, social and cultural context in which it occurs, it is a universal phenomenon that is prevalent in every segment of every society, regardless of ethnicity, race, culture, age, class or country. In fact, the World Health Organization estimates that violence is a greater cause of death among women aged 15 to 44 than cancer, malaria and traffic accidents combined.
And now my own shocking experiences with sexual assault and rape culture:
In the following cases, men and boys have supported me more than women and girls and could really help me.
Unfortunately, many women and girls are usually not helping each other with sexual harassment, rape and stalking. On the contrary! They support, excuse the perpetrators and accuse and terrorize the victims.
These are my shocking experiences:.
First I was and I am a honest girl and woman, hard working at school, High School and Workplace. Goodlooking and with no sexy dresses. A hardworking wife and mother, fighting for women's rights, girls and childrens rights and human rights, for animal rights and for a clean and good environment. I am a very careful person. But inspite of this, I met many psychopaths and evil persons. Nobody is an island of safety and nobody can say, that evil things cannot crosssing the way of life, every day and every time:
The cases I'll describe in more detail!
Here is a short overview!
I was hunted and stalked on the way to school by a traveling salesman (a heinous pervert) from the area of Aachen at the age of 8 to 10 years for two years by the car. Female neighbors (stupid cows without brain) who had seen from the window, that a anonymous car was chasing me, said viciously laughing to my shocked old grandmother, that I was a little slut, if that would already start with men and cars, then I would eventually end up on the street prostitution. None of these stupid and vicious women called the police or anyone else to help, though they saw that in my desperation I ran across the fields for my life. The last time this pervert chased me with the car on my lonely long way to school, the only way to save myself to being dragged into the car was by pinching him in the car door. He then shouted after me death threats as I fled across the fields.This thing ended with schoolmates and my former teacher, who helped me, but I did not get any help from women.This hunt with the car lasted two years. This cowardly child molester was always waiting at that time for me in the car on the my lonley way to school.
An end to this horror made my teacher at last, who, together with other affected children, boys, lay in wait for the perpetrator on the school way, asking him, what he are doing there. The sex predator escaped and was never seen again.
In high school at the age of 17, I was massively harassed, terrorized and stalked by a classmate (a sexually sadistic hater of women). There were female idiots (Stupid geese that never had a brain) in my class who thought I should finally sleep with him, so that calm would enter the class. It was known, that my harasser was an sexual sadist, because he was a great fan of the misogynist films, "The last Tango of Paris" and "Clockwork Orange". Some stupid girls said, that I am an impertinence with my resistance for the whole class. Because of the fact, the stalker had girl friends in the class, it was planned, that these girls should lure me to a party where I would then be put forcefully under alcohol and drugs and he wanted to gang rape me with numerous friendsn, male classmates warned me, from the concerned girls no warning came. And when he tried every day to throw his heavy school backpack on my head for long-distance practice, which could have ended in a hit with serious or fatal injuries, male classmates intervened, some more than mindless girls were very amused over the show and thought that I should see it as casual fun. The help for me came by male classmates and a female subject teacher, one of the few women in my life that really helped me.
Later, when I had started training in another city, he was seen several times with unknown young men in my train compartment, where they passed me with a sneering smile, then another friend of him was one day suddenly in my company canteen, where he was looking menacingly and silently sat down at my table and also my classmate stalker and two male friends threw me one day powerfully an old umbrella from behind in my back in the main station, so that the umbrella broke.And one night, neighbors heard an unknown motorcycle. The next morning all the flowers and bushes under my bedroom window on the ground floor were destroyed, and since it had rained we found huge footprints that matched the size of my school stalker's body. So much for the harmlessness of stalkers.
During my first year at the workplace at the age of 18, I became the victim of a rape attempt by a senior colleague (a perverted sex offender). When his wife had a childbirth in the hospital, he kept me busy until one evening until we were alone in the office and then attacked me from behind with a stranglehold to rape me. I was able to free myself and send him to the ground with a chin hook and escape. The next day, I told my boss and a work colleague who warned him. However, my training only continued because I had committed to remain silent and that should cause me serious problems. My successful resistance was dismissed as outrageous and unnormal, especially among stupid women who had gone to sleeping around to make carreer, they said if I was thinking to be anything better then the other women. These mindless women(brainless and moreless female ducks) bullied me instead of supporting me. I have at that time the support of my boss and a another male collague. For me, it was not surprising that the harasser had an absolutely disgusting porn calender in his office and in my presence he was constantly talking about whether I could compete with these porn stars and show if I have such a figure.My complaints had the loud mocking laughter of the men and the indignation of the absolutely dumbfounded women to say that porn and prostitution were normal and would prevent rapes and only someone who was not right in the head, like me, would be bothered by this porn calender. However, as we learn from the media / criminal cases and crimonological and scientific studies on a daily basis, increasing pornography and prostitution since the sixties has led to worldwide sexual femicide in all countries, especially in Africa, Asia, South America and all Muslim countries/ Arab / Hindu countries. I got into a fight with a female supervisor who accused me of spreading lies about innocent fathers and I shouted back whether this company was a company or a brothel. She never forgave me for that and I never apologized for that, why I should also apologize for the sex offenders in the company. One day when I brought a portfolio of signatures to an office, three older men were sexually grabbing at me who had daughters at my age. Since I fled the office without signatures, my female boss's deputy angrily asked them that they must be ashamed to harass a young girl. My female boss then threatened her with the notice that she would be fired, if she interfered here. In desperation, I went to the works council, which also had a daughter at my age. But he laughingly offered me his sexual services and penis, that would solve my problem. I fled the office and had one more enemy.When at the birthday party of my boss a friend of the harasser massively sexually molested me so in that kind that I gave him a hard slap in the face and he wanted to beat me in front of all colleagues who participated with their family in the celebration, it was some men who intervened and helped me. These absolutely totally stupid women on the party said that I was the troublemaker and the wife of the boss had to drive me home to the indignation of the female guests. Mind you, not the harasser, a family man had to leave the celebration, but me. The extent to which sexual violence is already taken worldwide for granted and normal, my husband found out when he complained to two good school friends about the sexual harassment I was exposed during my first apprenticeship with the greatest state employer. From one minute to the next, the supposedly nice men mutated into aggressive misogynists. One. a sexist bastard, said that apparently that I had not yet learned to submit under men. For my complaints about decent men I should be hit so hard on the mouth that I can never say anything about men and then such an unfeminine, abnormal woman should be fired immediately.
The other, a always horny idiot, said how a worthless sex object like me, should be allowed to do an apprenticeship with such a great employer, and that I had no right complaining about harassment. Something could not be right with me, I belonged permanently in the closed psychiatry, so the opinion of this nice friend.
That was of course the end of this friendship between men. I made inquiries about these men and learned that they both work for the state and in my office, although not in the upper class like me but in the simple service. One of them tyrannized the women in his department as an idiotic misogynist, the other harassed them daily in the company as a sexist idiot and saw himself as a great Casanova.
Are you sure that you know the truth about nice men, professionally and privately, in my experience a sexual and misogynistic monster is often hidden under a lot of charm and kindness.I was bullied for three years by all horny men and silly women, sleeping around in this authority because of my resilience to the rape and sexual harassment that forced me to quit my civil service.
My brother-in-law and half-brother (a great misogynist violent and perverse bastard) of my husband, the super-bully:
I was only 18 years old at the endless terror by this women hater .
My brother-in-law, a wealthy and successful independent businessman, with mansions, houses at home and abroad, mobbed and terrorized everyone, invariably. He was also still a domestic violent offender, who abused my first sister-in-law and his two children daily and he is always unpunished. Above all, he humiliated my husband without end. He stopped at no one. From the beginning my brother-in-law terrorized me, harassed me and called me with vulgar sexist names like stupid slut, silly bitch, frigid virgin. He always claimed that he had seen me in the city at night, especially in the red light district, with strange men, one time he was brought to lie because I was in bed in my parents home at the time with a dangerous pneumonia. My parents wanted him to see him never anymore because of these heinous lies. At another time, when I was supposed to get an good apprenticeship at the tax office, he made a telephone call there, pretended to be my husband, and claimed that I was pregnant. I didn't get the job because of this great lie. He was obviously afraid that his machinations as tax consultants would be discovered by the tax office, which are probably not quite in order, because how do you become so rich as a tax consultant. That was just one of many intrigues against me. But he also used the bank accounts of my husband and my mother-in-law as a tax advisor and took money, there was only no report about that, because my mother-in-law threatened with suicide, if my husband and I were going to the police. The brother of my husband boasted in the presence of all acquaintances and relatives of homicide and rape of indios made by him and his men in South America, where he had haciendas in Paraguay and Uroguay and he had also sex with female minors in Brazil and Florida. His first wife found evidences. We think today that he had at that time connections to people, involved in human trafficking and arms smuggeling. My mother-in-law had great fear and always said to me I should shut my mouth about that, otherwise it could be uncomfortable for me. All people at that time were silent, nobody was going to the police and I was a underaged girl and later a very young woman. If only one person went with me to the police to tell about this evil man, but they all were afraid, very afraid. My brother-in-law forced his first wife to have three abortions in just one year and beat her daily during her two pregnancies, and the second wife had to get sterilized abroad at the age of 25 because he hated children. Whenever we had family reunions, he always came too late, we were not allowed to start drinking coffee until he came, otherwise he was raging. His wife and children always came with blow marks, he constantly insulted me with sexually disgusting comments. I'm a very quick-witted and courageous person, I think, but I've been nearly assaulted by him on several occasions because I objected and stopped him to hit his children and his wife on the coffee table. In one case he wanted to beat the children and his wife at the birthday table of my mother-in-law before my eyes. I intervened and he said he like beating a bitch like me. After everyone was dumbfounded and trembling with fear, I said, go ahead, I've always wanted to use the bonecrusher trick from my judo course on a living subject. And another time, he said to my mother-in-law's old girlfriends that such women as me he would meet otherwise only in brothels. Yes, I said, it has been rumored that you are the main customer in our city brothel, there was now a syphillis epidemic. The two old ladies were trembling all over and snow-white. After a short time there was no contact with my brother-in-law until today. He verbally and physically terrorized and mistreated his female employees, a father of a underaged trainee complained to me that his daughter had almost committed suicide, I could only point out that he must contact a lawyer and police, what else couldnot done. The brother of my husband deceived and decimated all his business associates and friends. They all complained to me and my husband too about this. Although my brother-in-law also humiliated my second sister-in-law (a silly goose with the brain of a bale of straw), among other things he called her his young free hooker to third parties, she bullied hard. She terrorized the young female employees in my brother-in-law's tax advice office; he was verbal, physically violent, and sexually harassing the girls and women. She regularly slandered me, I couldn't even answer at the telephone when she called because she was telling at once lies about my hello at the phone. She said then, she thinks a strange man was in my house, how stupid my husband is, my husband has horns like a bull, because this little slut (me) is cheating him. She also bullied my brother-in-law's daughter and my old mother-in-law, apparently she had nothing else to do but spin intrigue. It is really a shame how such women support perpetrators.At the end, the old parents were on the line, first my very ill father-in-law, whom the brother of my husband accused in the hospital of being a simulant and that he was a case for the psychiatry. When I intervened, he terrorized my mother-in-law, telling her to ban me form visting the ill old man. He did not achieve that. When my father-in-law died, he bullied my seriously ill mother-in-law, along with his second wife, who had just married him for the money and was a true luxury female. He humiliated my first sister-in-law and the children endlessly with his second wife. As my mother-in-law and her twin sister told me, before the divorce, they caught my second sister-in-law and my brother-in-law having sex in a toilet in a luxury restaurant while my first sister-in-law was still in the restaurant with the children. My second sister-in-law immediately after the divorce made sure that the children came out of the house as soon as they were of legal age. She said about me, that I would always look like a "catching a men" woman and a around sleeping slut. That says that woman who has sex in a local toilet with a married man, my brother-in-law. As an female acquaintance of my first sister-in-law told me about my second sister-in-law, that this woman is damned calculating, because when she had a fight with my brother-in-law, she told this acquaintance in confidence that the man was disgusting and humilating and bad in sex, but her mother had said to her " lie down , close your eyes and think of all the money we have then. "Obviously, this tactic worked. When my mother-in-law, whom we cared for on her own, as well as for my father-in-law, although my brother-in-law had five minutes his office and his house, became ill during our vacation, a female neighbor asked my brother-in-law for help. That was a goddamn mistake, because he pushed the poor old neighbour woman when he came almost down the stairs, screaming in rage, and my mother-in-law was forced by him and my sister-in-law to pack her things and the poor old woman was leave with their suitcases in tears from my second sister-in-law in the doorway of a retirement home. In the meantime, my brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and playful grandson have looted my mother-in-law's account, along with the cleaning lady, sharing the most valuable stamps and coins from my father-in-law's collections, jewelry, and elegant clothing. When we got our mother-in-law out of the old people's home, the disaster had already happened. My mother-in-law threatened suicide if we went to the police. So she died completely broken in another modern retirement home, because it turned out that she had severe Alzheimer's. Before, my brother-in-law wrote two bad letters, we could take care of her now, he declines any responsibility. Since 1986 my husband has no contact any more with this heinous brother. Well, evil exists, right.
I was stalked and harassed by an misogynist ex-tenant (a cowardly sadistic and sexually perverse asshole) and his entire circle of friends. At that time I was 48 years old. There were damages to property, slander on the Internet, cybermobbing, telephone terror, rape threats and death threats. I got many sadistic rape porns and I was called a slut, which deserves rape. My husband e-mailed the tenant for his outrageous behavior, which then accused us of being liars and stalkers.
My husband reported the tenant on suspicion of terrorism because tenant had the behavior of a terrorist and friendships with very uncanny appropriate people.
I think my ex-tenant is a very dangerous man who is capable of anything. Shortly before moving out, he was seen laughing and taking a gun at the head of his then-female acquaintance in a car below the house. At the same time, my shocked husband informed me that the tenant had bought and shown him a sadistic porn with rape gang bangs and forced anal sex on the same day, saying, that ist the kind women must be treated, when his girlfriend wanted sanitary napkins because of heavy bleedings.
I think my ex-tenant is a very dangerous man who is capable of anything. Shortly before moving out, he was seen laughing and taking a gun at the head of his then-female acquaintance in a car below the house. At the same time, my husband informed me that the tenant had bought a sadistic porn on the same day, when his girlfriend wanted sanitary napkins because of heavy bleeding from me. We knew immediately what had happened. During his short thenant-time he had a girl friend and many One-Night-Stands, but in spite of that, he stalked me. And he defamed me in the neighbour hood as woman, that slept around. After the departure of the tenant informed me the mother of a female tenant in the apartment above him that this was probably drugged with drugs, raped and was now blackmailed. Since the female tenant no longer talked to us and then moved out and probably no police turned on, we could unfortunately do nothing. Murder and rape threats to me were signed with Jack from Hell. I got a photo sent from the blowjob with about twelve years old girl, I recognized him on the liver spot and dimples on the chin, on the dark hair and the clothes. And I got anonymous many rape porns with E-Mail with calling me a dumb bitch and prostitute.
From a forum for stalking victims, I and all those who wanted to help me, were bullied out by him and other unknowns (mostly female bullies, stupid cows that have forgotten brains somewhere) within a few days. I was no longer anonymous, because my appearance and my place of residence was described. A pen pal discovered a forum where my tenant bragged that he was going to end the conflict with a woman with a bottle in her vagina, attached with a corresponding cruel X-ray image of such a crime. What a sadistic human pig! My tenant was a very tall and very strong man, when I realized that he was planning something evil when I was home alone one day, I invited my parents and let them park their car somewhere else. He came then and was very angry when I was not alone, he was sweating heavily, claiming that he wanted to pay me the rent cash today and pulled out a bundle of unbelievable many money , which seemed very strange to me. He is a masterful psychopathic liar, and capable of anything that I know to be evil.
There are also frequent incidents (during the rental period and even today after removal of the tenant) with nocturnal shots below the house, nocturnal destruction of a flower bank, flower pots, outdoor lamps, outdoor cameras, motion detectors, garden furniture in the garden, digging plants and stone steps at night Removal of the garbage containers or paper containers at night with removal of the contents, nightly damage to the company car (scratching, loosening the wheel nuts, piercing the tires).And until now we hear unknown men nightly around the house, under the house and the garden. A girlfriend of mine saw unknown foreign men in cars under the house nightly together with her friend, these people were driving always quickly away when they saw my girlfriend and her friend. Apart from the fact that he did not even pay his monthly newspaper and told the newspaper I would pay it.
Again and again, someone unknown goes around the house at night. When I threw hard fruit out of the skylight several times a night and hit the shadow, I heard from the sounds that it was a man.
Since my ex-tenant had intercepted mail from me during his tenancy and spied constantly in the paper container at night in discarded postal items, he came so to the addresses of girlfriends, penpals and colleagues. These people were massively harassed on the Internet and privately with telephone terror, property damages, break-ins and burglary attempts. A female friend of mine, who lived below my house, was molested by a whole unknown Arab clique until she threatened with the police. Not surprisingly, in the years that followed, I saw this man again and again nearby, near the house, in the tram, the tram stop in my neighborhood, my workplace, near my girlfriend's apartment, either alone or together with an unknown man or an unknown woman, either in changing cars with different license plates or without a car. With beard, glasses, sunglasses or without. My son also saw him differently in the car parks near his school. When I saw him once in front of the shopping center of our district in the morning, my imitated photos were gone for 6 weeks. On a vacation and a cure, I had an unknown very big man at night on the balcony, which was also noticed by others. In addition, we had two private burglary attempts and a break-in attempt in our Austrian apartment and in a cure tried at night an unknown man to invade in my room. When a movie theater we visited, had to be evacuated because of a decaying, stinking dead animal that unknown people had left behind us, my son and his friend saw our ex-tenant with an unknown woman leaving the cinema. In addition, the ex-tenant repeatedly called me with false identities professionally and privately, so in the presence of my son in December 2015, when I was just was released from a serious tumor surgery from the hospital, my ex-tenant called himself Mr. Unterberg. At the hospital last night, an unknown tall, dark-haired man tried to get into my room, but he was expelled by a fellow female patient. The stalking of another girlfriend was so extreme that she goes with her husband to the police, but the police could not find out everything, in all other cases it was the same. My meaning is, the male police means, that all the women are hysterical and implausible. I think nothing of the thesis that stalker are admirers and are harmless, I think this thesis simply idiotic and stupid and it was probably invented to protect these harassment.In this case, of course, I also got calls from unknown women and girls who laughed on the phone or sent love couple hotlinesat my birthday and at Christmas, of course these incredibly stupid girls and women also bullied me away from a forum for stalking victims, in which they defended the perpetrator there , although I was anonymous, after that I was it no longer. The stalking perpetrator sent me BDSM Revenge porn from his female friends with the comment that all women and girls are stupid, worthless sluts. And someone like that is defended by women and girls, ist that still possible?
The unintelligible thing about the whole thing is, all Criminals, Mobbers and Stalkers had spectators, bystanders and helpers and people, which are looking away, also females. How can women and girls in this world be so stupid to be not on their own side?
I have therefore the opinion that the cowardly crimes stalking, bullying and rape are punished as hard as possible and that helpers, bystanders and spectators must be also severely punished.
Bullying and stalking, rape culture should not be more straightforward in the future. In cases where bullying and stalking leads to death or ends with rape, gang rape, sexual torture, murder and suicide, there should be high lifelong imprisonment for all parties, including helpers and spectators.
Lucky/Alice Sebold (Autor)
In Lucky, a memoir hailed for its searing candour and wit, Alice Sebold reveals how her life was utterly transformed when, as an eighteen-year-old college freshman, she was brutally raped and beaten in a park near campus.
What propels this chronicle of her recovery is Sebold's indomitable spirit – as she struggles for understanding (‘After telling the hard facts to anyone, from lover to friend, I have changed in their eyes’); as her dazed family and friends sometimes bungle their efforts to provide comfort and support; and as, ultimately, she triumphs, managing through grit and coincidence to help secure her attacker's arrest and conviction.
In a narrative by turns disturbing, thrilling, and inspiring, Alice Sebold illuminates the experience of trauma victims even as she imparts wisdom profoundly hard-won: ‘You save yourself or you remain unsaved.’
Beautiful: A beautiful girl. An evil man. One inspiring true story of courage/Katie Piper (Autor)
'I heard a horrible screaming sound, like an animal being slaughtered ... then I realised it was me.'
When Katie Piper was 24, her life was near perfect. Young and beautiful, she was well on her way to fulfilling her dream of becoming a model.
But then she met Daniel Lynch on Facebook and her world quickly turned into a nightmare ...
After being held captive and brutally raped by her new boyfriend, Katie was subjected to a vicious acid attack. Within seconds, this bright and bubbly girl could feel her looks and the life she loved melting away.
Beautiful is the moving true story of how one young woman had her mind, body and spirit cruelly snatched from her and how she inspired millions with her fight to get them back.
Asking for It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture--and What We Can Do about It/Kate Harding (Autor)
Every seven minutes, someone in America commits a rape. And whether that's a football star, beloved celebrity, elected official, member of the clergy, or just an average Joe (or Joanna), there's probably a community eager to make excuses for that person.
In Asking for It, Kate Harding combines in-depth research with a frank, no-holds-barred voice to make the case that twenty-first-century America supports rapists more effectively than it supports victims. From institutional failures in higher education to real-world examples of rape culture, Harding offers ideas and suggestions for how we, as a society, can take sexual violence much more seriously without compromising the rights of the accused.
The Dead Women of Juarez/Sam Hawken (Autor)
Since 1993 almost five hundred women have been murdered in Ciudad, Juárez. Locals believe the true number stands at five thousand.
When a new disappearance is reported, Kelly Courter, a washed-up Texan boxer, and Rafael Sevilla, a Mexican detective, are sucked into an underworld of organized crime, believing they can outwit the corruption all around. The Dead Women of Juárez follows these two men obsessed with seeking the truth about the female victims of the Mexican border wars.
Everyday Sexism/Laura Bates (Autor)
In a culture that's driven by social media, women are using this online space to come together, share their stories and encourage a new generation to recognise the problems that women face. This book is a call to arms in a new wave of feminism, and it proves sexism is endemic - socially, politically and economically - but women won't stand for it.
The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help/Jackson Katz (Autor)
Jackson Katz is an American hero! With integrity and courage, he has taken his message--that the epidemic of violence against women is a men's issue--into athletic terms, the military and frat houses across the country. His book explains carefully and convincingly why--and how--men can become part of the solution, and work with women to build a world in which everyone is safer.
The War Against Women/Marilyn French (Autor)
"Terrifying...Impressive...A challenging esay that justifies the feminist revival."
THE NEW YORK TIMES
Bestselling author and feminist scholar Marilyn French has written a shocking and fascinating analysis of the history of women's political, cultural, physical, and economic repression that is as controversial as it is utterly convincing. In this stunning work of resarch, Ms. French creates a devastating portrait of today's male-dominated global society, with its underlying aim of destroying, subjugating, or mutilating women. Here is a devastating indictment of our values and an important step toward an urgent public discussion of human morality.
Murder in the Name of Honour: The True Story of One Woman's Heroic Fight Against an Unbelievable Crime/Murder in the Name of Honour: The True Story of One Woman's Heroic Fight Against an Unbelievable Crime
Murder in the Name of Honour is Rana Husseini’s hard-hitting and controversial examination of honour crimes. Common in many traditional societies around the world, as well as in migrant communities in Europe and the USA, they involve a ‘punishment’—often death or disfigurement—carried out by a relative to restore the family’s honour.
Breaking through the conspiracy of silence surrounding this crime, one writer above all others has been instrumental in bringing it to the world’s attention: Rana Husseini.
Conquest: Sexual Violence and American Indian Genocide /Andrea Smith (Autor)
In this revolutionary text, prominent Native American studies scholar and activist Andrea Smith reveals the connections between different forms of violence—perpetrated by the state and by society at large—and documents their impact on Native women. Beginning with the impact of the abuses inflicted on Native American children at state-sanctioned boarding schools from the 1880s to the 1980s, Smith adroitly expands our conception of violence to include the widespread appropriation of Indian cultural practices by whites and other non-Natives; environmental racism; and population control. Smith deftly connects these and other examples of historical and contemporary colonialism to the high rates of violence against Native American women—the most likely to suffer from poverty-related illness and to survive rape and partner abuse. Smith also outlines radical and innovative strategies for eliminating gendered violence.
Pornography and Silence: Culture's Revenge Against Nature/Susan Griffin (Autor)
A masterwork of feminist ideology, brilliantly exposing pornography as the antithesis of free expression and the enemy of liberty
In this powerful and devastating critique, poet, philosopher, and feminist Susan Griffin exposes the inherent psychological horrors of pornography. Griffin argues that, rather than encouraging expression, pornographic images and the philosophies that support them actually stifle freedoms through the dehumanization, subjugation, and degradation of female subjects. The pornographic mindset, Griffin contends, is akin to racism in that it causes dangerous schisms in society and promotes sexual regression, fear, and hatred.
This violent rift in Western culture is explored by examining the lives of six notable individuals across two centuries: Franz Marc, the Marquis de Sade, Kate Chopin, Lawrence Singleton, Anne Frank, and Marilyn Monroe. The result is an extraordinary new approach to evaluating sexual health and the parameters of erotic imagination. Griffin reveals pornography as “not a love of the life of the body, but a fear of bodily knowledge, and a desire to silence Eros.”
Surviving the Silence: Black Women's Stories of Rape/Charlotte Pierce-Baker (Autor)
In this "intelligent", "stunning", and "honest" book, Charlotte Pierce-Baker weaves together the accounts of black women who have been raped and who have felt that they had to remain silent in order to protect themselves and their race.
Public Heroes, Private Felons: Ideology in Henry James, F. Scott Fitzgerald, and James Baldwin: Athletes and Crimes Against Women/Jeff Benedict (Autor)
While arrests of celebrated college and professional athletes for crimes against women escalate at an alarming rate, popular sports figures routinely escape accountability for their offenses. Shielded by a lucrative sports industry that fosters the athlete's positive image as role model to the nation's youth, few players are successfully prosecuted in the courts and they rarely face sanctions on their eligibility to play. In a work that is sure to generate heated debate, Jeff Benedict thoroughly investigates for the first time athletes' abusive behavior, delving into the full spectrum of complex factors that give rise to and perpetuate the disturbing pattern of frequent sexual and domestic violence toward women. Drawing on extensive and unprecedented interviews with athletes, victims, attorneys, coaches, team officials, and others, Benedict provides an in-depth examination of several incidents of rape, gang rape, and assault by successful sports figures, including the cases of Mike Tyson, Christian Peter and other members of the University of Nebraska football team, and former Boston Celtic Marcus Webb. Benedict's probe confronts such controversial issues as race, class, the groupie phenomenon, the sexually permissive lifestyle of many athletes, the consensual sex defense, and the sports industry's indifference to recruiting or drafting talented athletes with prior criminal records. Benedict concludes with sound proposals for implementing tougher measures and sanctions at both the college and professional levels in order to stem the disquieting number of athletes who commit violent crimes against women.
The Accuser: The True Story of the Big Dan's Gang Rape Victim / Karen Curtis (Author)
Cheryl Ann Araujo is The Accuser. In 1983, she was victimized by men, the judicial system, the Government, the media, and the Portuguese mob because she stood up against them all in the Big Dan's rape trial in New Bedford, Massachusetts.
In 1988, Jodie Foster portrayed a character loosely based on Cheryl Araujo in the Hollywood movie The Accused for which she won an Academy Award. Foster's character was gang raped on a pinball machine, rather than a pool table.
But, by the time the movie was released Cheryl was already dead. After the rape trials, she was run out of Massachusetts due to death threats and in 1986, died in a single-car accident in South Florida. Her two young daughters were with her in the car and survived. They recall what happened that fateful day in this book.
This is the true story about what the government and Hollywood do not want you to know regarding one young woman's fight as an accuser to tell her true story to a jury and to the world without being "victim blamed." Cheryl was one of the first accusers to face a camera in the courtroom shaping the way the media and judicial system covers rape trials today. Her grueling experience also planted the first seeds of today's burgeoning #MeToo movement.
The book contains never before published information, interviews, and photographs about the life and death of Cheryl Araujo, one of the most tragic accusers and heroines in American history.
Living with the Enemy/Donna Ferrato (Autor, Fotograf)
This critically acclaimed, graphic report on family violence reveals the lives of ordinary women-and the men who batter them.
Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls/Carrie Goldberg (Author)
Riveting and an essential timely conversation-starter, Nobody's Victim invites readers to join Carrie on the front lines of the war against sexual violence and privacy violations as she fights for revenge porn and sextortion laws, uncovers major Title IX violations, and sues the hell out of tech companies, schools, and powerful sexual predators. Her battleground is the courtroom; her crusade is to transform clients from victims into warriors.
In gripping detail, Carrie shares the diabolical ways her clients are attacked and how she, through her unique combination of advocacy, badass relentlessness, risk-taking, and client-empowerment, pursues justice for them all. There are stories about a woman whose ex-boyfriend made fake bomb threats in her name and caused a national panic; a fifteen-year-old girl who was sexually assaulted on school grounds and then suspended when she reported the attack; and a man whose ex-boyfriend used a dating app to send more than 1,200 men to ex's home and work for sex. With breathtaking honesty, Carrie also shares her own shattering story about why she began her work and the uphill battle of building a business.
While her clients are a diverse group—from every gender, sexual orientation, age, class, race, religion, occupation, and background—the offenders are not. They are highly predictable. In this book, Carrie offers a taxonomy of the four types of offenders she encounters most often at her firm: assholes, psychos, pervs, and trolls. “If we recognize the patterns of these perpetrators,” she explains, “we know how to fight back.”
The Natashas: The Horrific Inside Story of Slavery, Rape, and Murder in the Global Sex Trade/Victor Malarek (Autor)
The shocking story of the Eastern European women victimized by the business of worldwide human trafficking—and those who profit from it. “Required reading” (The New York Post).
On the black market, they’re the third most profitable commodity, after illegal weapons and drugs. The only difference is that these goods are women and girls, some as young as twelve, from all over the Eastern Bloc, where networks of organized crime have become entrenched in the aftermath of the collapse of the Communist regimes.
In Israel, they’re called Natashas, whether they’re actually from Russia, Bosnia, the Czech Republic, or Ukraine. Promised jobs as waitresses, models, nannies, dishwashers, maids, and dancers, they are then stripped of their identification, sold into prostitution, and kept enslaved. Resistance is futile, even dangerous, and the victims often have nowhere to turn. In many cases, those who should be rescuing them—immigration officials, police officers, or international peacekeepers—are among their most hostile aggressors.
In this “graphic…scathing indictment” (Kirkus Reviews) of a crisis of epic proportions, Victor Malarek exposes the global phenomenon of sexual trafficking, a form of modern slavery and a multibillion-dollar industry whose scope has, until now, remained largely unknown. An indispensible and startling call to action to end this institutionalized crime against humanity, The Natashas is an “impassioned [and] intensely affecting read.
Sexual Enslavement of Girls and Women Worldwide/Andrea Parrot (Autor)
They are in different countries but share the same hell. Maria is one of 14 women lured from Mexico to Seattle, Washington, with the promise of a job, then held by force in a brothel and required to sexually service men 12 hours a day. Anna is a young mother from the Ukraine who left her husband and children there to take a job as a housecleaner in Italy, where she was put in a barred, guarded house and forced into prostitution. Nadia is an 11-year-old girl in Africa, kidnapped and forced to have sex with a militiaman daily, with a machete ever ready nearby should she refuse. All three women are part of horrific sex slavery that has drawn the attention of officials in countries around the globe. It is not rare; officials say it is increasing, at least partly due to the billions of dollars it brings in for organized crime. The U.S. State Department estimates 800,000 victims, mostly women and children, are trafficked for sex trade across nations each year and millions more are trafficked within countries - including the U.S., Britain, Spain, and the Netherlands. As a Seattle Times reporter explained when Maria's case hit the news there, the reality is that sex slaves for the most part are young women and teenaged girls who come from almost every one of the world's poorer countries and end up in almost every country where there is a combination of sexual demand and money. But they are also in undeveloped Africa, in prisons internationally, locked in forced marriages, or sold to men by parents. In this book, Parrot and Cummings outline the scope and growth of the sex slave market today and explain the history with various elements - including economic, political, cultural, and religious - that make this trade difficult to fully expose, quell, combat, and shut down. We hear from girls and women around the world describing how sexual enslavement has tortured them physically, emotionally, and spiritually, whether they suffer at the hands of prison guards in Turkey, criminals in Washington, or buyers dealing with parents who sell their daughters for the sex slave trade in Greece, Belgium, or France. The authors also describe national and international efforts and legislation passed or in design to stop sex slavery. Successful countries and regions are spotlighted. Then Parrot and Cummings point out actions still needed to stop the sex slavery trade.
We're Not Supposed to Tell You: Sex Slavery, Drugs, and Other Secrets of Thailand's Prostitution Industry/ Noi Thawattana (Autor)
Thailand's prostitution industry has secrets, and there's a lot that bargirls are not supposed to tell their customers.
If customers ask, bargirls have to say that they love their jobs, no one is forcing them to do it, they've never tried drugs, they are regularly tested for diseases, and of course they're over eighteen years old. How else can they answer, especially with a boss watching over them?
The truth is often very different from these answers and Thai smiles, and the truth is seldom realized by tourists to Thailand.
We're Not Supposed to Tell You details the gritty reality of Thai sex work, including debt slavery, drug addiction, and underage prostitution. It was written by an insider, a former bargirl who now lives in the United States, and is no longer afraid to speak out about what bargirls know but most customers don't know or choose not to acknowledge.
Easy Meat: Inside the British Grooming Gang Scandal/Peter McLoughlin (Autor)
Peter McLoughlin spent years believing the Leftist narrative, namely it was 'a racist myth' that organised Muslim groups in Britain and the Netherlands ('grooming gangs') were luring white schoolgirls into a life of prostitution. But in 2009 he first encountered people who said their children had been groomed like this. These informants had non-white people in their immediate and extended family, and were thus unlikely to be racists. So McLoughlin dug deeper and what he found shocked him: there were mounds of evidence that social workers, police officers, Muslim organisations, journalists and even some Members of Parliament must have known about these grooming gangs for decades, and they had turned a blind-eye to these crimes. He also came across references to incidents where any proof had since vanished. McLoughlin spent several years uncovering everything he could and documenting this scandal before the evidence disappeared. He demonstrates that the true nature of this grooming phenomenon was known about more than 20 years ago. While he was writing this book, Parliament was forced by rising anger in Britain to conduct its own low-key investigation. The eventual report concluded the grooming problem was basically in one town: Rotherham. Official reports finally admitted there were more than 1400 victims in this otherwise unremarkable town. McLoughlin argues the authorities will continue their cover-up of this scandal, with many thousands of new victims across the country every year. The criminal indicators in Rotherham are to be found in scores of towns across Britain. McLoughlin's book is an attempt to get the public to wake up, for them to demand civilised solutions, because if the social contract breaks down, people may turn to vigilante justice as the prostituting of schoolgirls continues unabated. The book documents the hidden abuse of Sikh victims by grooming gangs, and how Sikhs in Britain have already resorted to vigilante justice. The book exposes how political correctness was used to silence potential whistle-blowers, and how this grooming phenomenon demonstrates that multiculturalism does not work. Every layer of authority in the British state comes under detailed examination to expose their part in the scandal.
A Woman Like Her: The Short Life of Qandeel Baloch/ Sanam Maher (Autor)
When Pakistan's first social media celebrity is murdered, a journalist seeking to understand her life and death creates an intimate and unforgettable portrait of a woman who broke the rules, and the changing face of the Muslim world. A book about killing that tells us how dangerous we women live now.