Sixteen years ago My nephews Elwood and Wesley were taken away from my sister Martha by the state because of her drug use and abuse. My sister immediately stopped using drugs and began to utilize whatever tools and services she was given to succeed in reunification. The courts did not allow my sister into a drug program that allowed her to be with her then newborn son. 18 months of sobriety in an in-home drug and alcohol treatment facility, countless groups and parenting classes, family involvement, and never a missed visit, Lisa Badarou one San Bernardino’s highest paid social workers and my families worst nightmare, never gave my sister a chance to have home visits or even housing assistance. And based on her notes and assessment from monitoring every visit of my sister and her 2 kids in the same 10by10 office like room for several years. Lisa Badarou came to the conclusion and even convinced a whole judge that my sister is retarded and does not deserve or to nor even know how to be a mom so it is in the best interest of the children that they never see there mother again. The courts told my sister that once her rights were terminated, there is nothing that can be done. My sisters only request was to keep her two sons together because all they had were each other and Lisa Badarou promised that she would not separate my two nephews but  unfortunately immediately after my sisters rights as a parent were terminated, Lisa Badarou found it in the best interest of the children to be torn from there mother,  she wouldn’t be able to sleep at night if the children remained together so through her assessments and judgements Lisa Badarou found it in the best interest of the children to be torn away from their mother and also each other leaving my older son stranded alone in the foster system because he had nappy hair and wouldn’t fit in to the Mexican family that wanted  and adopted Wesley. The courts failed my sister and her two children. The Dodd family is a big family in San Bernardino and over 10 family members were also denied placement due to minor tickets and infractions. I would like the courts to stop allowing under qualified social workers to make assessments based on lies and lack of knowledge about services that Martha needed to help her reunify. The courts need to offer those with a disability who’s rights have been terminated information and knowledge on how and what to tell the children who were made to believe that there parents didn’t want them yet did everything in there power to get them back but was told retarded people can’t be mothers. My sister has a learning disability that causes her to react different and slower than others but had and continues to have the parenting skills the court failed to see as a result of incorrect or lack of services given to My sister Martha. My sister now has an 11 year old daughter and a 7 year old daughter and has lived on her own as a single mother since soon after the courts traumatic presence of required perfection tore our hearts out. For 16 years we have been numb to the fact there was nothing we could do. I was scrolling through til tok and a familiar face appeared a face I haven’t seen in 15 years. My sisters son Wesley. I haven’t been able to sleep since. Where is her oldest son Elwood he will be 19 in July. Why hasn’t he tried to find us. What lies was he told. Does he hate us because he believes we just left him in the world alone. Is he mentally ok or is someone taking advantage of him. As an American with a disability I should be offered information  on what I should do now. Lisa Badarou had all the answers to why I cannot parent and a judge sided with her. Lisa Badarou you went on with your lavish life in Palm Springs while my life ended the day you convinced a judge that retards do not deserve and can’t learn to be parents. How do I find my son Elwood. Does my son Wesley know he is adopted and if so what was he told. I want my sons to know I wanted them and loved them and never stopped. I cannot cure my mental disability but I can fight for change for the children we Cherish. Justyce for disabled mothers who’s rights were terminated due to there disability that has no cure. My two daughters Cherish age 11 and Justyce age 6 keep me inspired that one day I will see and get to know my two sons. I want them to know I Cherish them and seek Justice for what they had to endure due to incompetence and ignorance of learning disabilities and real life parenting.