I completely agree, my boyfriend of 7 years and father to our two children has two other kids in AZ. For the longest time he hasn't even been able to speak with the kids because the mothers won't let them let alone see them yet we pay thousands a year. Children aren't meant to become pawns in life when things don't work out between parents. Also child support isn't meant to better your life as a parent. I would love to see what they spend their money on. Personally I think it needs to be put into a savings account and before the other parent can take it out it needs to be laid out what's it's for and receipts need to be given.