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Nicolaus Allen
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Let's call on Buffalo Bishop Richard Malone to release names of all priests accused of abuse

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"We are the heroines of our own history. "
Mary McCarthy (1912-1989), American writer & women's rights activist
Wir sind die Heldinnen unsrer eigenen Geschichte."
Mary McCarthy (1912-1989), amerikanische Schriftstellerin & Frauenrechtlerin

"Women will not be free, as long as their submission is considered sexy. "
Sheila Jeffreys, British political scientist and author
Frauen werden nicht frei sein, solange ihre Unterwerfung als sexy gilt."
Sheila Jeffreys, britische Politikwissenschafterin und Autorin

Misogyny is everywhere! Together we can make a change!

There are many hate crimes against women:
Femicide, female infanticide, targeted killing of female fetuses, FGM, acid attacks, child marriage, forced marriage, sexual and domestic violence, honour killings, dowry murders, rape pornography, forced prostitution, sex trafficking, sex slavery, sexual murder, sadistic stalking, rape culture connected with child rape, marital rape, campus rape, gang rapes, prison rape, mass rapes, war rapes, stoning, execution, lashing, torture, imprisonment of female victims, witchhunts, street and workplace harassment, hate speech on the internet, the society and the media, catcalling, eve teasing, lack of education, contraception and human rights, violence during childbirths, forced dress codes like the burqa.

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery

I am a survivor of extreme misogyny! My muslim Stalker and ex-tenant with australian nationality and his friends send me rape porns, rape threats, death threats and called me a slut, which deserves rape. They make cyber crimes, hacking attacks, online defamation, cyber bullying, identity thefts, telephone terror, damages to property, gang stalking.

Twitter study in 2016 reveals the extent of misogyny on social media:

The posts of more than 86,500 users were studied to determine who uses the most misogynistic language online

A study from think tank Demos has mapped the extent of misogynistic language across Twitter in research it describes as "a bird's eye snapshot of what is an often traumatic experience for women".

More than 86,500 users were studied internationally and the findings suggest there is an even split in misogynistic tweets being sent by men and women.

The study used a natural language processing algorithm to identify "aggressive" tweets containing the words ‘slut’ and ‘whore’ over a three-week period - more than 10,000 tweets in the UK, and 200,000 internationally.

The algorithm identified and removed 'self-identifying' uses of the words (such as "I'm a slut") and "those that were commenting on issues related to misogyny, such as slut-shaming or slut walks".

But Demos stressed the study is just one element of misogynistic abuse.

It was a relatively small scale study designed as part of MP Yvette Cooper’s Reclaim the Internet campaign and only represents a tiny aspect of the abuse women face online. Reclaim the internet is an attempt to “support female participation in social media”.

It was also based on previous research undertaken by Demos, which suggested 'slut' and 'whore' are the most commonly used words directed at women online.

Twitter has been keen to show itself as proactive on abuse. In April 2016, its harassment rules changed so users could report multiple abusive tweets in one go.

"Behaviour that crosses that line into abuse is against our rules, and we want it to be easy for you to report it to us," the site said at the time.

And in December 2015, it updated its rules of conduct to state it would "not tolerate online behaviour that is intended to harass, intimidate or use fear to silence another user's voice".

Alex Krasodomski-Jones, researcher in the Centre for the Analysis of Social Media at Demos, also noted misogyny is not just limited to Twitter.

"It's important to note that misogyny is prevalent across all social media," he said. "We must make sure that the other big tech companies are also involved in discussions around education and developing solutions."
“Respect is a human and women's right.”
-Anita Kanitz

"There's something so special about a woman who dominates in a man's world. It takes a certain grace, strength, intelligence, fearlessness, and the nerve to never take no for an answer." —Rihanna in the March 2017 issue of Harper's BAZAAR.

"No woman should be told she can't make decisions about her own body. When women's rights are under attack, we fight back." —Kamala Harris

“Feminism is not a dirty word. It does not mean you hate men, it does not mean you hate girls that have nice legs and a tan, and it does not mean you are a ‘bitch’ or ‘dyke’; it means you believe in equality.”
Kate Nash, singer


"Women must be safe everywhere. On the street, walking through a park, in their homes, at work. We need to ensure that we have a culture of respect of women. We must never, ever, ever tolerate violence against women. Eurydice Dixon - we grieve her loss, we mourn with her family and we say never again."
- Malcolm Turnbull

"Women in Australia have the right to freedom of movement. It is not the fault of women if they chose to walk home from transport to their house. All of this violence is ultimately preventable and we need to tackle the enablers of violence, we need to change the attitudes of men."
- Bill Shorten


From my lifelong commitment to human rights, women's rights, girls rights and children's rights, I know many abominations. I was particularly shocked by the many informations from worldwide penpals about femicide, sex trafficking, sadistic gang rapes (the most victims are babies, childs and underaged girls) FGM, forced marriage, child marriages, mass abductions of girls and young women, combined with gang rapes, torture, mutilation and murder (victims were eyes, limbs, genitals, breasts removed, they are scalped and skinned, burned or doused with acid), imprisonment of female children, girls and women, combined with rape and sexual torture, executions of female assault victims, even childs.

I personally know many women and girls, no matter from which country or how old they are, all victims of sexual, domestic, verbal violence and harassment and stalking in the family, in partnerships, in marriage, in the public, in school, the University or workplace. Many were sexually abused and raped during childhood, many were beaten and raped by their partners. Almost all of them have been forced into sadistic sex by their partners. The youngest acquaintances complain that all men today want BDSM sex. Humiliation, beating, strangling, shackling, inserting huge dildos or vibrators, violent anal sex (with causing severe anal bleeding) or brutal oral sex (with damage to the teeth and mouth and throat) are part of daily sex and lead to many injuries , infections and also depression, finally also to the separation. The very old acquaintances often break up with their partners because they were sick and tired in their partnerships, thanks to Viagra, when they were older, their men forced them to the whole porn program and red light program that was very painful and humiliating for the old and elderly women. All the men became verbally obsolete and many also became palpable when the girls and women did not want that kind of sadistic sex. This is really shocking and sad, but behind the façade of the happy lovers, young and old, there is pure brutality and the most extreme hatred of women.

Unwanted and teen pregnancy is often caused by forced sex and sexual abuse or even rape! Judging the pregnant girls is not the solution The solution is to help them in the best way!

Men and boys worldwide are using their genitals as weapons against females. In some countries sexual murder cases and war rapes are so high that we can speak from femicide!

Violence, rape, torture and humilation is very common in porns. Porngraphy is the instruction, rape culture the practice!
Never Again? Addressing Sexual Violence Must Include Pornography!

Reasons I Hate Pornography:
Why I hate pornography and you should too.
Enabling sexual violence
Pornhub is the world's largest provider of porn content. It attracts 80 million visits a day. The company, now owned by MindGeek, is headquartered in beautiful Montreal, where its more than 1,000 employees toil day and night to bring you the best scenes of suffering on the market.
Pornhub is both a repository and disseminator of hate propaganda. It hosts evidence of crimes against women for men to enjoy. Popular videos depict brutal sexual violence against women. Sadistic titles revel in women's inability to stop the violent assaults carried out against them. The most violent have views in the millions. Many titles are centred around the sexual abuse and rape of teen and underage girls. Men are fantasising about raping young girls with impunity while government, children charities and advocacy groups try to tackle an epidemic of child sexual abuse.
Cultural norms are taught through pornography. When boys learn early to enjoy, take pleasure in, laugh at, and get off on torture and humiliation videos, when they are fed a diet of rape porn and racist sexual abuse, does the avalanche of violence against women come as a surprise?
James Ogloff, an experienced clinical forensic psychologist, was recently quoted in The Australian: "In serious sexual offending, the motivation is often a deviant sexual interest. It is very much a sexual motivation." That deviant sexual interest has to come from somewhere. Pornhub features in the top five favourite sites of boys aged 11-16, according to ChildWise UK. Rape is on the menu for boys whose sexuality is still being formed. They see, and are taught to be aroused by, girls who are choking, sobbing, vomiting, their eyes popping, having their skin bruised, being called abusive names, slapped, kicked, pounded, hair ripped out.
Sarah Champion, the Labour MP for Rotherham, whose constituency was at the centre of a child sexual exploitation scandal, produced the 2016 Dare2Care Report in which she quotes one young boy who asked: "If I have a girlfriend, do I need to strangle her when I have sex with her?" Indiscriminate porn exposure acts as a kind of social grooming for this generation of boys. Girls morph into porn fantasy sex props.
Thus the number of sexual offences recorded in the Republic of Ireland has doubled since 2003: an increase of 87%, two thirds of which has occurred in the past three years. Authorities in Ireland are linking the sex crimes to pornography - especially among teenage boys. In 2016, one in five rapes in Ireland was committed by a juvenile. Eileen Finnegan is the clinical director of One in Four, a national organization that aids and counsels the victims of sex crimes and also treats offenders. All the sex offenders in treatment began offending at 10 or 11 years of age. They developed what Finnegan calls "a deviant interest" in sexual violence. And they are getting their sex education from pornography. "The escalation is astonishing," says Eileen Finnegan, regarding the rise of rape porn and its access by children.
The UK has also made the connections. In the foreword to the 2012 report Basically ... Porn is Everywhere, Deputy Children's Commissioner for England Sue Berelowitz highlighted violence done to girls by porn-influenced boys:
"The first year of our Inquiry ... revealed shocking rates of sexual violation of children and young people ... The Inquiry team heard children recount appalling stories about being raped by both older males and peers, often in extremely violent and sadistic circumstances, and in abusive situations that frequently continued for years ... The use of and children's access to pornography emerged as a key theme ... It was mentioned by boys in witness statements after being apprehended for the rape of a child, one of whom said it was 'like being in a porn movie'; we had frequent accounts of both girls' and boys' expectations of sex being drawn from pornography they had seen; and professionals told us troubling stories of the extent to which teenagers and younger children routinely access pornography, including extreme and violent images. We also found compelling evidence that too many boys believe that they have an absolute entitlement to sex at any time, in any place, in any way and with whomever they wish. Equally worryingly, we heard that too often girls feel they have no alternative but to submit to boys' demands, regardless of their own wishes."
France is also observing the links between porn exposure and violence against women. "I am surprised that we are astonished at the violence done to women today without attacking the roots of the evil," says Professor Israel Nisand, gynaecologist and President of the French National College of Gynaecologists and Obstetricians. On 15 June, with several health professionals, Nisand launched a "solemn appeal" to the government to fight against the mass distribution of pornographic images, to which children are exposed. "We observe a policy inertia," he said. We see the same policy inertial here.
The dehumanization of girls
Personal accounts of the lived experience of women and girls dealing with porn-conditioned boys and men demonstrate pornography's dehumanizing power. It is worldwide written about encounters with girls who are telling about boys demanding sexual favours, demanding sex acts they don't like, being pressured to provide naked images, being ranked on their bodies compared to the bodies of porn stars.
As British writer and activist Sarah Ditum has observed, "The pornographic vocabulary of sex as the violent debasement of the female body had seeped out from screens and into the lives of women." And it is no longer only porn "performers" who are taking the hit of porn (whose experiences are shamefully still largely ignored), it is women and girls everywhere, every day.
Growing numbers of young women are saying that their partners are initiating the signature sex acts of pornography: ejaculating on faces and bodies, deep-throating fellatio and anal sex. "Rosie Redstockings" - a young student at an English university - describes her experience of porn-conditioned men. She writes:
"I'm 23. Mine is the first generation to be exposed to online porn from a young age. We learnt what sex is from watching strangers on the internet, we don't know anything else.
"Here are some of the things that I have experienced ...
"Being told that my gag reflex was too strong ... Bullied into submitting to facials. I didn't want to. He said [jokingly] that he'd ejaculate on my face while I was asleep. He wasn't joking - I woke up with him wanking over me ... Bullied into trying anal. It hurt so much I begged him to stop. He stopped, then complained that I was being too sensitive ... He continued to ask for it ... Constant requests for threesomes ... Constant requests to let him film it ... Every single straight girl I know has had similar experiences. Every. Single. One. Some have experienced far worse. Some have given in, some have resisted, all have felt guilty and awkward for not ... giving him what he wants."
Then there's the 16-year-old girl who describes oral sex as "the new kissing":
"When you have sex with a guy they want it to be like a porno. They want anal and oral right away. Oral is, like, the new kissing ... the cum shot in the face is a big thing."
A recent study found girls were being coerced into anal sex they didn't want and which they found painful. The main reason they gave for engaging in the act was that boys "wanted to copy what they saw in pornography." Younger girls who spoke to British MP Sarah Champion for her report, told her they believed it was obligatory to have anal sex or to be shared between a partner's friends if they wanted a boyfriend to remain faithful.
Alison Pearson relays a conversation with a GP who described anal tearing from porn-inspired anal sex, increasingly happening to adolescent girls:
"A GP, let's call her Sue, said: 'I'm afraid things are much worse than people suspect'. In recent years, Sue had treated growing numbers of teenage girls with internal injuries caused by frequent anal sex; not, as Sue found out, because they wanted to, or because they enjoyed it, but because a boy expected them to. 'I'll spare you the gruesome details', said Sue, 'but these girls are very young and slight and their bodies are simply not designed for that'.
"Her patients were deeply ashamed at presenting with such injuries. They had lied to their mums about it and felt they couldn't confide in anyone else, which only added to their distress. When Sue questioned them further, they said they were humiliated by the experience but they had simply not felt they could say no. Anal sex was standard among teenagers now, even though the girls knew it hurt ...
"The girls presenting with incontinence were often under the age of consent and from loving, stable homes. Just the sort of kids who, two generations ago, would have been enjoying riding and ballet lessons, and still looking forward to their first kiss, not being coerced into violent sex by some kid who picked up his ideas about physical intimacy from porn."
At a time when the surreptitious filming of women and girls is increasing - known as "upskirting" and "downblousing" - hidden cameras is another rising porn genre. The appeal, as shown in the titles, is that the woman or girl doesn't know she is being filmed: "Girlfriend doesn't know she is being recorded"; "My 19 YO Roommate undressing - My first time spying on her" and so on ad nauseam.
It is a criminal offence to film people when they have a reasonable expectation of privacy, but men are placing hidden cameras in toilets, changing rooms and rental properties. We only hear about the ones who are identified and charged. These men will face court while Pornhub hosts and profits from the videos they created. Meanwhile, Amazon Australia has been exposed for selling a how-to guide for taking "creepshots" of women, implicitly fuelling the practice.
Porn consumption and sexual aggression
There is a growing body of literature testifying to the way that boys who take their sexual cues from porn develop sexist attitudes and aggressive behaviours, which then have "trickle down" effects on women and girls.
Porn use is linked to higher rape acceptance attitudes. A major 2012 systematic literature review found that adolescent consumption of internet pornography was linked to attitudinal changes including acceptance of male dominance and female submission as the primary sexual paradigm, with women viewed as "sexual playthings eager to fulfill male sexual desires." Adolescents intentionally exposed to violent sexually explicit material, the review found, were six times more likely to be sexually aggressive than those who were not exposed. Similarly, in a 2015 meta-analysis examining the link between pornography consumption and sexual violence, the authors found that consumption of pornography was associated with increased likelihood of committing actual acts of sexual aggression.
The evidence of this is all around us. One in four young Australian men believe it is normal for men to pressure women into sex. In the UK, one in three girls have experienced unwanted sexual touching at school, while 71% hear the terms "slut" or "slag" used to describe female students on a weekly basis.
In Australia there has been a notable increase in reports of child-on-child sexual assault, with porn being cited as a key factor turning children into "copycat sexual predators." At the other end of the age-spectrum, a secret Australian Facebook group called "Blokes Advice" deals in porn-laced threats of violence and vilification. The 200,000 male group members entertain each other with graphic descriptions of gang rape, revenge porn, advice on how to force women into anal sex and incitement to bombard women with porn. Men defended the multiple threatening and violent plots against women as "a bit of a laugh."
Likewise, The Red Zone - a 200-page report into the culture of sexual assault and harassment at many Australian university residential colleges, released earlier this year - details decades of institutionalised hazing and misogyny, including male students masturbating into the shampoo of female residents and an initiation ritual involving "male residents breaking down the doors of women's bedrooms, resulting in one student being taken to hospital."
Not liberation
A new documentary titled Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution, is currently screening on Netflix. It exposes the brutal reality of what happens during Spring Break, when American and international students converge on places like Florida and Cancun in Mexico. The sense of male entitlement is chilling. It feels like watching a mass pack assault, with every woman viewed as meat and conquest.
Male students are on the prowl, predators looking for the next girl to grope; they pull down a girl's top (chanting "Tits out for the boys!"), ply another with alcohol, hustle for sex and, in some cases, out in the open in full daylight, participate in gang rape to a cheer squad of men capturing it all on their phones. Young men are not only becoming inured to suffering - they are turning it into home-made ritual humiliation films to share with their friends.
Sadly, the girls have come not to expect better treatment. There's a price to be paid in not complying: when a girl says "no" and walks away, she is abused and derided. (One begs "Help me" as she tries to escape an aroused cabal who are poking and prodding her and trying to relieve her of her bikini). The boys are taken aback by resistance to the imposition of their unwanted hands and grinding penises. The college boys, for their part, make no secret of their porn consumption. They revel in it. And they enact what they have learned on screen on the bodies of real women.
With sexuality increasingly equated with the consumption of cruelty and brutality, with boys learning to equate the dehumanization of girls and degradation of their bodies with pleasure, with girls treated as masturbatory props, there can be little doubt that will see more of what Di McLeod, director of the Gold Coast Centre Against Sexual Violence (GCCASV), is witnessing. She wrote:
"In the past few years we have had a huge increase in intimate partner rape of women from 14 to 80+. The biggest common denominator is consumption of porn by the offender. With offenders not able to differentiate between fantasy and reality, believing women are 'up for it' 24/7, ascribing to the myth that 'no means yes and yes means anal', oblivious to injuries caused and never ever considering consent. We have seen a huge increase in deprivation of liberty, physical injuries, torture, drugging, filming and sharing footage without consent.
"There is a cost in the trickledown effect that some of us bear witness to every day ... GCCASV has experienced a 56% increase in referrals from emergency departments of local public hospitals in the past year. Women have been hurt, sustained vaginal, anogenital and other physical injuries in the perpetration of forced sexual contact ... It is rare for us to have a recent rape presentation that involves only vaginal penetration. Porn inspired sex signature acts of anal, deep throating, the money shot accompanied by choking and strangulation are the new 'norm'. Despite the sexologist saying rape and sexual assault are not relevant it is central to the women and young women whose lives have been negatively impacted."
Trying to tell boys it is time for a sexual re-assessment, or lecturing them on "consent" and "respect" simply cannot compete with the indoctrinating effect that porn has on boys. They've learned from porn to gain pleasure in violation.
According to Covenant Eyes, there have been over 3.5 billion online searches for pornography in the past 3 years. Pornography is responsible for destroying marriages, families, and thousands of women, men, and children and many sexual hate crimes and sexual murders. The pornography industry generates approximately $13 billion per year in the United States alone and is responsible for 70% of online pay-per-view purchases. Pornography affects millions of children, teenagers, and adults every year. We can considering pornography a national epidemic. Many people say porn is not a issue, but I disagree. Pornography is the silent killer of other human beings, our relationships with other people, and most importantly, our relationship with our Creator.
We need to talk to boys about how pornography depicts sexual violence against women, and explain to them that consuming porn is not only an affront to women and girls generally, it risks hijacking their sexuality and shaping it into something that will affect their ability to experience intimacy and pleasure without violence.
A culture built upon violation
There is thus a disturbing disconnect between condemnations of violence against women that invariably follows horrifying events like the rape and murder of Eurydice Dixon and the utter silence about the role played by pornography in enabling that violence. Failing to address pornography as a driver of male violence gives future porn-inspired perpetrators a leave pass to commit it.
ABC journalist Jill Meagher was murdered in 2012 by serial predator and rapist (and consumer of rape porn) Adrian Bayley. In a Facebook comment posted on 23 June (quoted with permission), Jill's bereaved husband Tom Meagher observed the inexplicable reluctance to locate porn in the "Rape Culture Pyramid"!If we truly care about confronting the enablers of violence against women and girls, we must tackle porn's role as, in Meagher's words, "a deeply regressive sexual re-enforcement of the cultural misogyny." If we don't, I fear that all the talk about addressing enablers and creating a safe culture for women is mere rhetoric and cant, devoid of meaning.
I hate porn and you should too.
1. The Porn Industry directly fuels sex trafficking.
The pornography industry is directly responsible for sex trafficking and other forms of sexual exploitation. According to Fight The New Drug, those who have watched a pornographic film in the past year are twice as likely to go to prostitutes. Pornography fuels the sex-trade demand by desensitizing those who watch porn regularly, which increases their tolerance for the sex-trafficking industry. Many people convicted of rape and other sexual crimes acknowledge that they are addicted to porn. Pornography exploits women, girls, even childs and views them as objects rather than human beings, which leads to men exploiting women, girls and childs in real-life situations.
2. Pornography addictions destroy relationships.
Pornography deteriorates relationships with other people. After watching pornography, users have noted they feel lethargic and their relationships with the other sex are dramatically different. 56% of divorces are directly caused by one partner being incredibly addicted to porn. Pornography also leads to partners committing adultery.
Pornography directly fights the idea that all human beings have worth and value; an idea endowed by God. When users constantly fill their brains with pornographic images, their view of the other gender slowly turns them from a human to simply a sex-object. This leads to users not having the ability to maintain relationships with the other gender.
Many cruel sexual killers were porn addicts like Ted Bundy or Peter Madsen.
3. Pornography addictions pull men and boys away from our Creator.
Most importantly, pornography is the silent killer of the relationship with our Creator. The Bible says that all our sin must be brought into the light. Yet, pornography is one of the hardest subjects to speak about in public, especially to those in leadership. Along with all the harmful effects, pornography brings an immense amount of shame on the user. This shame leads users to keep their addiction secret, which means the addiction has the ability to grow worse. Addicts must bring their addiction into the light; that is where the healing and rehab begins.
You have no respect for your Creator, if you love porns. Because porn teaches disrespect, humilation, mutilation, rape, torture and murder of female persons, even childs.

Sex slavery, child and forced prostitution is common in all countries worldwide. Another debate of the feminist sex wars centered on prostitution. The women in the anti-pornography camp argued against prostitution, claiming it is forced on women who have no other alternatives.[neutrality is disputed] Meanwhile, sex-positive feminists argued that this position ignored the self-agency of women who chose sex work, viewing prostitution as not inherently based on the exploitation of women. Carol Leigh notes that "The Prostitutes rights movement of the early 1970s evolved directly from the women's movement", but adds: "The women's movement in the U.S. has always been ambivalent about prostitutes". The polarized views of feminists on prostitution have affected their positions on the related issue of human trafficking, which is frequently for the purpose of sexual exploitation, with anti-prostitution feminists taking up the position of abolitionists.

The male legend of the horny girls and women which have many orgasm during intercourses is part of the sexual enslavement of women. Across multiple different studies from the last several decades of research, scientists have consistently observed that between 80 percent of women will not orgasm during sex, and that a further ten percent won’t orgasm at all in their lifetime.
The porn industry and prostitution lives from the lies of played female lust and orgasm.

For example, in one study over 40% of Pakistani men were completely unaware that females could even achieve orgasm. Even in countries like Egypt and were 90 % of all females have undergone cruel FGM and cannot reach lust and orgasm during their whole lifetime, all men are very sure, the females have orgasm during intercourse. This is common in all countries with FGM, the tears and cries of pain are in the sight of men signs of lust. The same sight have many rapists!

We are all the change for a better world, we have waiting for!
The enslavement of women and girls since humankind exists, is funded by the enslavement of their bodies and their sexuality. It is funded by rape culture, forced marriages, child marriages, forced child births, forced FGM, paid and unpaid rape in prostitution and pornography, marital rape, sex trade, sex slavery, denied human rigths, education, gender equality and denied contraception and abortion. Denied contraception and abortion means forced childbirths, funding of rape culture and misogyny. The best contraception is to have no intercourse with men.

There’s a large unmet need for contraception worldwide; more than 110 million women globally who want contraceptives but do not have access to them. One third of all pregnancies worldwide are unintended (80 million annually). These pregnancies lead to 20 million unsafe abortions each year with at least 70,000 women—often mothers—dying as a result. Many more, approximately 5 million women, are hospitalized annually from complications as a result of unsafe abortions. Approximately 90% of deaths from unsafe abortions and 20% of other obstetrical deaths could be avoided by increased access to effective contraception for women worldwide.Stop unwanted pregnancies and tell men and boys not to rape and abuse women.

In the United States, among the 62 million women of reproductive age, most (70 percent) are sexually active, fertile and are trying to avoid getting pregnant, yet nearly half of all pregnancies each year are unintended.

Approximately 11% of these women do not use any method currently, and this small percentage of women account for more than 50% of all unintended pregnancies. At current rates, experts estimate that at least half of all US women will experience an unintended pregnancy, and one in three will have an abortion, by age 45.

Every minute, a young woman becomes newly infected with HIV, and the vast majority of HIV infections are sexually transmitted. Women need reproductive health programs to be integrated with HIV/AIDS services, and vice-versa, for improved efficiency and effectiveness in preventing AIDS infection and unplanned pregnancy and improving maternal and child health.

The United States, through PEPFAR – the President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief (PEPFAR) – has made an unprecedented commitment to helping create an AIDS Free Generation. Yet, PEPFAR funds cannot be used to purchase family planning commodities, nor are family planning services provided at PEPFAR sites, meaning that women cannot access a full range of contraceptives at the same site where they receive HIV/AIDS testing, counseling, or treatment. Moreover, continued U.S.-funding preferences for abstinence-based programs undermine comprehensive HIV-prevention services, including the provision of condoms.

Tell U.S. leaders that HIV/AIDS treatment and prevention programs must be integrated with comprehensive sexual and reproductive health services including family planning services for women and girls.

First, well intercourse is NEVER sex for women. Only men experience rape as sexual and define it as such. Sex for men is the unilateral penetration of their penis into a woman (or anything else replacing and symbolising the female orifice) whether she thinks she wants it or not — which is the definition of rape: that he will to do it anyway and that he uses her and treats her as a receptacle, in all circumstances — it makes no difference to him experiencing it as sexual. That is, at the very least, men use women as useful objects and instruments for penetration, and women are dehumanised by this act. It is an act of violence.

As FCM pointed out some time ago, intercourse is inherently harmful to women and intentionally so, because it causes pregnancy in women. The purpose of men enforcing intercourse regularly (as in, more than once a month) onto women is because it’s the surest way to cause pregnancy and force childbearing against our will, and thereby gain control over us.

And thereby gain control over our reproductive powers. There is no way to eliminate the pregnancy risk entirely off PIV and the mitigating and harm-reduction practices such as contraception and abortion are inherently harmful, too. Reproductive harms of PIV range from pregnancy to abortion, having to take invasive, or toxic contraception, giving birth, forced child bearing and rearing and all the complications that go with them which may lead up to severe physical and emotional damage, disability, destitution, illness, or death
Sex is used as weapon, even the crappiest online definition of violence: “behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something”. Bingo. It fits: Pregnancy = may hurt, damage or kill. Intercourse = a man using his physical force to penetrate a woman.: Intention / purpose: of the act of intercourse = to cause pregnancy.: PIV is therefore intentional harm / violence. Intentional sexual harm of a man against a woman

Sex is used as weapon, even the crappiest online definition of violence: “behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something”. Bingo. It fits: Pregnancy = may hurt, damage or kill. Intercourse = a man using his physical force to penetrate a woman.: Intention / purpose: of the act of intercourse = to cause pregnancy.: PIV is therefore intentional harm / violence. Intentional sexual harm of a man against a woman through penile penetration = RAPE

Hate crimes:

Honor Killings: The United Nations Populations Fund estimates that as many as 5,000 women and girls are murdered by family members each year in so-called “honor killings” around the world. According to the United Nations Special Rapporteur on extrajudicial, summary and arbitrary executions, “honor killings” have been reported in Bangladesh, Brazil, Ecuador, Egypt, India, Israel, Italy, Jordan, Morocco, Pakistan, Sweden, Turkey, Uganda and the United Kingdom.


Female Genital Mutilation: The World Health Organization estimates that more than 200 million girls and women around the world have undergone female genital mutilation (FGM), a traditional practice that involves either the partial or total removal of the clitoris (clitoridectomy), the removal of the entire clitoris and the cutting of the labia minora (excision), or the removal of all external genitalia and the stitching together of the two sides of the vulva, leaving only a very small vaginal opening (infibulation). FGM is commonly practiced in various countries in the Middle East and Africa, though it has also been documented in Asia, the United States and Europe. At least 2 million girls every year, 6,000 per day, are at risk of undergoing FGM.

Acid Burning: In some countries, women and girls are attacked with acid as a result of family disputes or rejected sex or marriage proposals. An increasing number of such acid burnings have been reported in Bangladesh, Nigeria and Cambodia. Those who survive are permanently disfigured and/or blinded. Perpetrators of such attacks frequently escape punishment.

Dowry Death: The United Nations Children’s Fund estimates that as many as 17 women were murdered per day when their families failed to make dowry payments to the families of their husbands in India in 1997. In a report presented to the Beijing + 5 Special Session of the United Nations General Assembly, the Government of India indicated a 15.2 percent rise in dowry deaths in 1999.

These are only a few examples of violence that are committed against women and girls every day in countries around the world. Although the manifestation of violence may vary according to the economic, social and cultural context in which it occurs, it is a universal phenomenon that is prevalent in every segment of every society, regardless of ethnicity, race, culture, age, class or country. In fact, the World Health Organization estimates that violence is a greater cause of death among women aged 15 to 44 than cancer, malaria and traffic accidents combined.

The greatest shame of the U.S:
Where rapists can gain parental rights!t's an almost unimaginable scenario: a victim of rape being forced to face her attacker over custody rights for a child conceived during an assault.
"Almost" is the key word, because it's a situation that can easily happen in states across the United States. The shorthand for this occurrence is often referred to as "parental rights for rapists," a phrase that's mind-boggling but accurate in its representation of the issue.
Without any legislation stopping a sexual assailant from claiming parental rights of a child, individuals are free and clear to pursue custody or visitation rights of their biological offspring. Forty-three other states and the District of Columbia have legislation that offers at least some protection to prevent rape victims from facing their attackers over parental rights; eight of those laws were just adopted in 2016.
But these legislative protections vary greatly. In 20 states and D.C., a rape conviction is required before a victim can request termination of parental rights.
For advocates, this is a problematic barrier, since the majority of sexual assaults don't even make it to prosecution, according to the Bureau of Justice Statistics (PDF).
Between 2005 and 2010, just 36% of the nearly 300,000 annual average rape or sexual assault victimizations were reported to police, the bureau reports. Even when you look at both reported and unreported rapes during that time period, roughly 12% of victimizations resulted in arrests.
That means in nearly half the states that have legislation meant to prevent rapists from claiming parental rights, a victim is still vulnerable to having to face her attacker if there wasn't a conviction in her case -- and that's if she reported it and if it was prosecuted. There are also exceptions, called "carve-outs," to consider. Some states may not apply these parental rights laws if, say, the person convicted of sexual assault is the spouse of the victim at the time of the attack or if they were cohabiting after the assault.

In Indiana, timing is everything: The victim must petition to have her assailant's parental rights terminated less than three months after the child's birth unless the victim is younger than 18. In Nebraska, the law applies only to sexual assault in the first degree.
Examples:

Indiana

The state's law, passed in March 2016, allows a rape victim who had a child conceived through sexual assault to petition for termination of the parental rights for the assailant. No conviction is required, but those who are 18 or older need to file to terminate the rights within 180 days of the child's birth.

Massachusetts

Courts here bar those who conceived a child through rape from having visitation rights unless a judge determines that the child is of suitable age, agrees to visitation and that visitation rights are in the child's best interest.

Minnesota

This state does not currently have any legislation protecting mothers who conceived their child through rape from facing their attackers over custody and visitation rights.

Mississippi

This state does not currently have any legislation protecting mothers who conceived their child through rape from facing their attackers over custody and visitation rights.

New Mexico

This state does not currently have any legislation protecting mothers who conceived their child through rape from facing their attackers over custody and visitation rights.

North Dakota

This state does not currently have any legislation protecting mothers who conceived their child through rape from facing their attackers over custody and visitation rights.

Wyoming

No laws currently exist to protect a rape victim who has a child due to the assault from having to face a challenge from her attacker over custody rights.

How can US rapist win joint custody of victim's child?
The case of a Michigan man awarded joint legal custody of a child whose mother he sexually assaulted when she was 12 has provoked outrage.

Many are incredulous that Christopher Mirasolo, 27, could be granted parental rights after a DNA test established his paternity.

The victim's lawyer said the case was set in motion after her client received child support from the state.

The case is thought to be the first of its kind in Michigan and maybe the US.

Attorney Rebecca Kiessling filed objections on Friday after Judge Gregory Ross ruled that Mirasolo had parental rights to the boy, who is now eight years old, reports the Detroit News.

Judge Ross also provided Mirasolo with the victim's home address.

The woman, who now lives in Florida, has been told to move back to Michigan.

Judge Ross also ordered Mirasolo's name to be added to the birth certificate without the mother's consent, her attorney added.
What's the case's background?

A 21-year-old woman told police Mirasolo forcibly raped her while holding her captive when she was 12 in September 2008.

The victim's ordeal began when she, her 13-year-old sister and a friend sneaked out of their house to meet an older boy and his friend, Mirasolo, who was 18 at the time.

Mirasolo held them captive for two days before releasing the older sister in a park.

He was arrested a month later when the woman became pregnant, Ms Kiessling added.

The charge is a first-degree felony in Michigan, but Mirasolo instead received a plea deal from the Sanilac County Prosecutor's Office for attempted third-degree criminal sexual conduct.

He was sentenced to one year in county jail, but only served six-and-a-half months before he was released early to care for his sick mother.

In 2010, he sexually assaulted another victim between the ages of 13 and 15 and was jailed for four years, according to the Michigan Department of Corrections.

Mirasolo was released in March 2012 and is a registered sex offender.

His supervision conditions include having a "responsible adult" present if he is with a minor.
How could this happen?

According to Ms Kiessling and the victim, the case was prompted after the mother sought child support.

Mirasolo's attorney, Barbara Yockey, told the Detroit Free Press that her client "never initiated" the custody case.

She said it was "routinely done by the prosecutor's office when a party makes application for state assistance".

"Chris was notified of the paternity matter and an order of filiation was issued last month by the court saying he had joint legal custody and reasonable visitation privileges," she said.

Ms Yockey said her client has not suggested he planned to act on his parenting rights and he had no scheduled court appearances.

"I don't know what his plans or intentions might be regarding any future relationship with the child," she said.

Ms Kiessling said the case violates the Rape Survivor Child Custody Act, which allows courts to dismiss the parental rights of convicted rapists over a child conceived as a result of rape.
What is the Rape Survivor Child Custody Act?

The law, championed by the Obama administration in 2015, gave states access to more funding for victims of sexual assault if they allowed courts to terminate the parental rights of an individual found to have committed rape against another person that resulted in the conception of a child.

About 5% of rape victims ages 12 to 45 become pregnant as a result of rape, according to the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology. A version of the law exists in 43 states and the District of Columbia, but the measures vary from state to state.

In 20 states and the District of Columbia, a rape conviction is required before termination of parental rights is allowed.

Critics argue this leaves victims vulnerable in cases that are not prosecuted.

Seven states have no laws barring rapists from asserting their parental rights over a child.

The greatest shame of Africa: FGM
FGM: Maasai Women Speak Out!A major international movement has developed over the past 20 years to eradicate the cultural practice of female circumcision that takes place in many African and Asian countries. At the Nairobi International Conference on Female Genital Mutilation in September, attendees from nations where female circumcision is practiced urged states to adopt political, legal, and social measures to eliminate the tradition. But the activists leading this movement have failed to understand the cultures behind the practice, and their ignorance is dangerous. Legislation, particularly the criminalization of FGM, and other external pressures that do not take local culture into account can have deadly consequences.

Before Maasai girls in Kenya and Tanzania are married, they must undergo circumcision in a ceremony that 99 percent of the time is sponsored by their prospective suitors. Aside from the actual surgical procedure, the rite includes a ceremony in which the entire community comes together to celebrate the girl’s passage to adulthood.

Many Maasai families cannot afford to give their children formal schooling, so to protect their daughters from lives of poverty they choose to marry them off at a young age. Because Maasai girls are traditionally considered children until they are circumcised, it is seen as imperative for a Maasai girl to undergo the circumcision rite before she is married. This strongly ingrained cultural belief propels families to go to great lengths to complete the circumcision. Over the past 10 years, I have witnessed people in my Kenyan Maasai community being arrested for practicing female circumcision. I have seen young Maasai children nearly starve to death because their parents were sent to jail. Most painfully, I have heard of girls from my community as young as 10 years old undergoing circumcision and being married.

Representatives of many non-Maasai organizations come to my village and talk about how young girls are mutilated. They tell us that unless we stop the practice, we are all going to be prosecuted. In most cases, these forceful approaches have not succeeded. Many families are now circumcising their girls at extremely young ages, before outside organizations have a chance to get suspicious and take action against them. Many Maasai, particularly those who live near urban areas, no longer announce their circumcision ceremonies. In some cases, the main circumcision ceremony takes place days after the surgery. I have seen young girls taken into hiding to be circumcised out of view of the authorities.

Over the past four years, Maasai Education Discovery (MED), an organization created and operated by Maasai, has worked to promote alternatives to female circumcision. Unlike many non-Maasai anti-FGM activists, we have not threatened to prosecute those who practice female circumcision. Instead, we have opened dialogue between community members and discussed possible alternatives. We have also encouraged young girls to speak out about their true feelings on the practice. In cases where a girl is being forced into circumcision against her will, we ensure that the girl is taken away from her family to a secure place. After some time, we initiate a reconciliation process to bring the girl back together with her parents and community. These strategies work.

MED also has initiated a program to involve the men. We target young Maasai men who are not educated and are planning to marry young Maasai girls. Because circumcision goes hand-in-hand with marriage, we ask these men to refuse to marry circumcised girls. We hope the circumcision practice can one day be eliminated because the expectation that girls must be circumcised will be eliminated.

Because of the negativity surrounding discussion of the practice, many Maasai are not willing to talk about the practice in public. Many of us who have been formally educated and exposed to the Western world understand that female circumcision, particularly the surgical part of the ceremony, must end. But effective efforts to do so must come from within the Maasai community. Maasai women and men must be educated about the dangers in order for them to find workable alternatives to a practice that has been a significant part of Maasai culture for generations.Agnes Kainett Kisai
MED student from Ewuaso Kedong’ in the Rift Valley of Kenya

The type of circumcision that the Maasai perform is called clitoridectomy, in which the entire clitoris or part of the clitoris, and at times the adjacent labia, is removed. The primary reason female circumcision is practiced among the Maasai is that it is considered a rite of passage. Circumcision is a cultural practice in the Maasai community, not a religious practice. It elevates a girl from childhood to the status of adulthood, and is necessary for a girl to be considered a complete woman. Another important belief among the Maasai is that the rite has an ability to reduce the woman's desire for sex, making her less likely to engage in pre-marital sex or adultery.

Being a Maasai woman who knows the effects of FGM, I feel obliged to tell about the harm that is brought to the girl. Excessive bleeding can occur during the practice and can lead to death. Today, because the procedure often has to take place in hiding, female circumcision is mostly performed using shared and unsterilized objects, which can lead to HIV/AIDS and tetanus, and damage organs including the vaginal walls. Inflammation of the cells around the circumcision area also occurs shortly after the operation. The long-term effects of FGM include chronic infections of the reproductive parts, pain during sexual intercourse, and difficulties in childbirth.

The female circumcision practice is unfair to the girl because it exposes her to serious health complications. It is also mostly done against her wishes and becomes a violation of her rights. In the Maasai community, once a girl undergoes circumcision, she can start a family. This belief has contributed greatly to the practice of early marriage among the Maasai.

My parents, though they are illiterate, are against female circumcision—an unusual position for any typical Maasai. Though they were once in support of the practice, they came to change after I convinced them of the dangers. Being Christian and members of a denomination that does not allow the practice also encouraged them a great deal. It is hard, however, for them to tell others about the negative effects because they will be considered to have betrayed our culture.

The Maasai people value our culture. Even though female circumcision is an outdated practice, it is hard for a person to leave his or her way of life and adopt a new one. If this change has to happen, it will happen gradually.

Kenya's Maasai and Samburu becoming women without FGM

'When my parents called the [cutter for my sister], I warned the district officer. Our generation can bring change.'Magadi, Kenya - Girls in colourful dresses dance and sing while holding candles that light up their smiling faces.

"Extinguish the light of [FGM]. Kindle the light of education," they sing as they lift their candles. These girls of a Maasai community in Magadi, southern Kenya, are entering their adult lives through a new ceremony designed to abandon a tradition that has injured so many before.

Although female genital mutilation (FGM) has been outlawed in Kenya since 2001, a majority of girls of semi-nomadic tribes like the Maasai and Samburu still undergo this painful and damaging ritual.

According to the Kenya Demographic Household Survey of 2014, some 78 percent of Maasai women and 86 percent of Samburu women between the ages of 15 and 49, have been mutilated, while for Kenya's general population the figure for FGM stands at 21 percent.Nine years ago, the NGO Amref Health Africa started training peer trainers among all age groups in Maasai and Samburu communities - elders, young men, mothers, and young girls - on the consequences of FGM. Together with several communities, the organisation developed the strategy called an Alternative Rite of Passage and now already more than 13,300 Maasai and Samburu girls have avoided FGM.

"In the beginning we faced a lot of resistance," Peter Nguura, project manager of Amref Health Africa, told Al Jazeera.

"But step by step, and starting with the engagement of the cultural elders as the key decision makers in the communities, we managed to create a conducive atmosphere of trust and confidence to discuss these culturally sensitive issues and meaningful and fruitful dialogue is now going on led by the community leaders themselves."

Alice, 63, did not want to be part of the training in the beginning. She, as a traditional cutter, was proud to be the one to help girls to become a woman. "'Who are you to change our culture?' were my first thoughts," she told Al Jazeera.

"But I changed my mind after I learned that FGM can cause serious medical problems that can even be life threatening."
A example of bravery:She Ran From the Cut, and Helped Thousands of Other Girls Escape, Too!LENKISEM, Kenya — The first time cutting season came around, Nice Leng’ete and her older sister ran away and hid all night in a tree. The second time, her sister refused to hide.

For Maasai families, the cutting ceremony is a celebration that transforms girls into women and marks daughters as eligible brides. But to 8-year-old Nice, it seemed like a threat: She’d be held down by bigger, stronger women, and her clitoris would be cut. She’d bleed, a lot. Most girls fainted. Some died.

Still, her sister gave in.

“I had tried to tell her, ‘We are running for something that’s worth it,’ ” recalled Ms. Leng’ete, now 27. “But I couldn’t help her.”

Ms. Leng’ete never forgot what her sister suffered, and as she grew up, she was determined to protect other Maasai girls. She started a program that goes village to village, collaborating with elders and girls to create a new rite of passage — without the cutting.Her work mirrors national — and global — trends. Rates of female genital cutting worldwide have fallen 14 percent in the last 30 years. Here in Kenya, cases have fallen more than twice that fast.

New laws have made a difference, here and elsewhere. Kenya outlawed female genital cutting in 2011, and a special unit for investigating cutting cases, opened in 2014, prosecuted 76 cases in its first two years.But laws made in the capital often have little effect on culture in the countryside, where custom is deeply ingrained and men’s power is virtually absolute.

In Maasai country, male elders enforce the customs, and the cut has long been one of the most important. The belief has been that women aren’t women unless they are cut, which means men can’t take them as wives. Much of how Maasai society is organized relies, in one way or another, on that ritual.

So the fight against female genital cutting, experts agree, needs Ms. Leng’ete’s kind of work: persuading village after village, and elder after elder, to overturn centuries-old custom.“Every community has their own reason for why they cut their girls,” said Christine Nanjala, who leads the special prosecution unit. “You’re dealing with culture, and when you’re dealing with culture, you’re dealing with the identity of a community.”

“Some rural old men asked us, ‘What will we call this woman who is all grown up, married, has children and is not circumcised?’ ” she added. “They do not have a name for such a kind of woman.”Ms. Leng’ete’s community did have a name for her. “It’s a very bad name in my native tongue,” she said, one meant to shame a whole family.

That shame is one reason families pressure reluctant girls. Ms. Leng’ete’s grandfather, her guardian, took a gentler approach and asked her, after her second escape, to explain herself.

“ ‘I’m only 8,’ ” she remembered telling him. “ ‘Wait until I am 9.’ ” She added, “I was trying to bargain.”

But when he brought it up again, she still refused.

“I told him, ‘I will never come back even if it means being a street child,’ ” she said. “When he realized I wanted to run away from him forever, he said: ‘Let’s leave her. When she wants to go, she will tell us,’ ” Ms. Leng’ete remembered.

Her grandfather was an elder, so he couldn’t be overruled. But the community still ostracized her.“Families wouldn’t let me play with their daughters,” she said over lunch at a Nairobi cafe. “Everyone saw me as a bad example, someone who disrespected her family and went against the ways of the community.”Things were different for her sister. After the cutting ceremony, she was taken out of school and, at age 12, married off to an abusive, older man. She had three children.

Ms. Leng’ete, meanwhile, began to remake her reputation.

When she became the first girl in her village to go to high school, she noticed that younger Maasai girls admired her uniform. She asked them if they wanted to be like her. “I wanted to show them I am happy with my life,” she said.

She told the girls that she had opportunities because she had refused the cut, and soon some turned up at her house, fleeing the ceremony just as she had.

Because she helped them, she had to hide — again. “The morans wanted to beat me,” she said, using the Maasai word for younger men who assist the elders in defending the community’s customs.

So she changed her approach. She would bargain with the elders, just as she had bargained with her grandfather. But it wouldn’t be easy.“The cultural elders are like a small Parliament in my village,” she said. “They have not gone to school, but they have so much power. All the decisions come from them.”

Traditionally, women aren’t allowed to address elders. Ms. Leng’ete realized she had a chance to counter tradition after the elders sent her to a workshop on adolescent and sexual health run by Amref, a Kenyan health organization.She told the elders that she had a duty to share what she had learned with the whole village. It was her first bargaining chip, and it — almost — worked. They gave her permission to address the younger men, but none of them stayed to listen to her.

“No girl had been courageous enough before to challenge the status quo, to challenge men,” Douglas Meritei, one of those men, remembered.

She kept trying, for two more years. She made such a nuisance of herself that the old men told the younger ones to sit with her. But only three would talk with her.

Ms. Leng’ete refused to be discouraged. “I thought, ‘Well, last time I had zero, this time it’s three, that’s not so bad,’ ” she said.

Gradually, more of the younger men came to talk with her, she said, and gradually the topics expanded — from H.I.V. prevention to teenage pregnancy and its health complications, to early marriage, to school attrition and, finally, to the cut.“At first, I thought that what she was saying was utter nonsense, and I did not even give it a second thought,” said Mr. Meritei, who was one of her earliest allies. She won him over by talking about the physical consequences of the practice.

“Her understanding of the medical conditions convinced me,” he said — even to the detriment of his social stature. “My friends wondered if I was bewitched, that I allowed myself to be carried away by such nonsense,” he added.Making an example of herself and all she had accomplished, Ms. Leng’ete convinced the younger men that cutting wasn’t good for the community, and she turned them into back-channel diplomats, who helped persuade the elders.

Finally, after nearly four years of dialogue, the elders in her village changed hundreds of years of culture and abandoned cutting. She had persuaded the men, and with them the village, that everyone would be healthier and wealthier if girls stayed in school, married later and gave birth without the complications cutting can create.

She and the elders planned a different kind of ceremony to celebrate girls, and the next year, the number of girls in school soared. The elders recognized Ms. Leng’ete’s work with a thing of great power — an esiere, a black walking stick that symbolizes leadership.

“You can command people with that stick,” she said, beaming.Her campaign spread to neighboring villages and eventually to the highest seat of Maasai power, the elders council that convenes at the foot of Mount Kilimanjaro. Ms. Leng’ete — whose neighbors wouldn’t speak to her because she wasn’t cut — became the first woman in history to address the elders at the mountain.

In 2014, they changed the centuries-old oral constitution that rules over 1.5 million Maasai in Kenya and in Tanzania, and formally abandoned female genital cutting.

In pushing to overturn a cultural commandment, she found that her own cultural pride was her strongest argument.

“It’s just the cut that’s wrong,” she said. “All the other things — the blessings, putting on the traditional clothes, dancing, all that — that’s beautiful. But whatever is harmful, whatever brings pain, whatever takes away the dreams of our girls — let’s just do away with that.”In December, Maasai beauty was on full display in Lenkisem, a remote village that held an “alternative rites of passage” program. Ms. Leng’ete now works for Amref, the health organization, and planning these rites of passage is her full-time job. More than 450 girls walked dozens of miles to the village, where they wrote the songs and invented the dances they performed for 1,000 people.

Before the ceremony, they spent two days learning about sexual health and adolescent development, lofty words for helping girls understand their bodies without fear. This requires undoing generations of rumors about the clitoris: That it makes you dirty. That it turns you into a prostitute. That you can’t have a baby. That if you don’t cut it off, it will grow as big as your ears.The hard work comes at home, when girls resist their parents — in particular, their fathers. The Maasai community is strongly patriarchal, and fathers have final authority over the household, where disobedience is usually unimaginable.

Shiluni Shirim, 12, is an ambassador for the program. She remembered fighting with her family, even after last year’s program, to keep them from cutting her.

“They were saying, ‘You’re not a real woman,’ and I was saying, ‘I will still be a real woman one day,’ ” finishing school, marrying and having children, in her own time, she said.

Shiluni began giving speeches in her community, and she was so good at it that the head of Amref invited her and her family to Nairobi. The opportunity that her talent and hard work had created overcame her family’s objections, she said.

“My dad was so proud,” she said.

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James Burch
3 years ago
I am signing this petition because I fear for the soul of Bishop Malone, and I hope to prevent other victims.

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L. Elizabeth Storm
3 years ago
As a faithful Catholic trying to encourage others to join our wonderful Church, I find these scandal horrible and difficult to explain to outsiders. The bishops who cover for criminals and encourage deceit must own up to their sins of omission and commission.

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Christina Byrne
3 years ago
Outrageous that Bishop Malone is still protecting pederast priests in his diocese!

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Scott Glenn
3 years ago
The abuse, the lies and the cover-up must end.

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Deb Watson
3 years ago
Buffalo's faithful deserve better. Enough ego, lies and coverups.

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Donna Bolling
3 years ago
Church should be protecting parishioners / members, not itself. Especially our children.
Church should set leadership example in ethical behavior, not double standard.

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June Mabry
3 years ago
At this point a list of all the credibly accused needs to be published, and those who are defendants in court cases need to be suspended until the case is resolved.