Bullying isn't just for kids anymore and it's time to make a change!
Bullying has spread beyond the schools and into the daily lives of adults. How can anyone think it is okay to judge others? Is it due to his or her own shortcomings? We will never know. But what we do know is that it is possible to make things better.
"Bullying is the common denominator of harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse, persecution, conflict and violence. When the bullying has a focus (eg race or gender) it is expressed as racial prejudice or harassment, or sexual discrimination and harassment, and so on. Although bullying often lacks a focus, bullies are deeply prejudiced but at the same time sufficiently devious to not reveal their prejudices to the extent that they contravene laws on harassment and discrimination."
Being bullied in my own life for many years left scars that will never completely heal. It just takes one key word to reopen the wounds that were left by mean words and actions, and I am right back to the time where the bullying took place. My confidence disappears, my shoulders drop and the smile is erased from my face.
Everyone has a need to feel like they belong, everyone has a right to live a life free of belittling and harassment. Society needs to be made aware and educated on how much words hurt. Not only that, but the fact that words scar.
I am reaching out to the community to ask adults and children alike to stop the bullying.
"What is Bullying?
Bullying is a conscious, willful, deliberate, hostile and repeated behaviour by one or more people, which is intended to harm others. Bullying takes many forms, and can include may different behaviours, such as:
physical violence and attacks verbal taunts, name-calling and put-downsthreats and intimidationextortion or stealing of money and possessionsexclusion from the peer group
Bullying is the assertion of power through aggression. Its forms change with age: school
playground bullying, sexual harassment. gang attacks, date violence, assault, marital violence, child abuse, workplace harassment and elder abuse"- (Pepler and Craig, 1997)
"Bullying is not about anger . It is not a conflict to be resolved, it's about contempt.
A powerful feeling of dislike toward someone considered to be worthless, inferior or undeserving of respect. Contempt comes with three apparent psychological advantages that allow people to harm others without feeling empathy, compassion or shame.
a sense of entitlement, that they have the right to hurt or control others,
an intolerance towards difference,
and a freedom to exclude, bar, isolate and segregate others"
(Barbara Coloroso "The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander)
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Think before you speak.
Put yourself in their shoes.
If the bullying has already taken place, ask for forgiveness.
Help heal the wounds left by hurtful words and actions.
Love and be loved.
Instead of saying something mean, say something nice. It will make you feel better and it will make the other persons day.
It will make the world a much better place.
"Despite how it may seem, it is not a hopeless situation. Something can be done to stop the hurtful behaviour. "
When other people intervene - more than half the time, the bullying will stop within 10 seconds! - Hawkins, Pepler & Craig, 2001
"In the end, the best way to combat bullying is to believe in yourself. Believe in the inner strength you have. But remember, get help when you need it. You are not alone. Together, we can stop the bullies!"
"He who establishes his argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak." -Michel de Montaigne
"He who establishes his argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak."
-Michel de Montaigne
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