I was born legitimately in 1956 to married parents, their youngest child. Three months later, my mother died of cancer. That was bad enough, but then, a Catholic priest convinced my father to give me up because, he said, "the baby needs two parents." And his other children didn't need two parents? I didn't need my own siblings and my own father?

My father, a devout Catholic, went against his own instincts and gave up his newborn. He gave my birth certificate and my baptismal certificate to my adopting parents one month later.

Upon the finalization of my adoption, one year and one week after my birth, New York State government falsified a new birth certificate in my new name and with my new parents, giving the false impression that the father named actually sired me whit the mother named and that that mother had given birth to me. All the birth information was stated: birth time, birth date, single birth, hospital, and my birth weight. The problem: this birth did not ever take place. There are no hospital records to be found in the name of this mother.

After this new birth certificate was made, my actual birth certificate was sealed and I can never get it back. Ever.

I am now three months shy of my 60th birthday and I resent very much what my government did to me. And to millions of other adoptees. This has nothing to do with love, or loyalty, or searching for missing relatives. It has everything to do with the facts of birth and the facts of adoption.

Are we going to continue to tell lies? Or are we going to stand up to tell the truth?

I support Australia in this effort. I also support America in the same effort to abolish adoption in favor of family preservation, kinship care, guardianship, and above all, the absolute return to adoptees their right to the truth of their births -- a certified copy of their sealed birth certificates, and the voiding of their falsified birth certificates. Yes, that would mean adoptees changing names back to their names at birth (if they want to). Yes, that would mean adoptive parents have a lot of adjusting to do.

Respect and dignity are due to the worlds' adoptees.

DM Sippel, Buffalo, NY, United States
5 years ago
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