All-Boys Schools should teach Sexual Assault Education and Prevention (Houston)

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I’m Kelsey Caine, an alumna of the all-girls school St. Agnes Academy in Houston, Texas. As a high school student I was sexually assaulted by a student who attended the all-boys school Strake Jesuit College Preparatory. I am not the only person I know who was sexually assaulted by a Strake student. All-boys schools have an opportunity and responsibility to educate thousands of young men about sexual assault.


Signing this petition supports that all-boys schools have a responsibility to include Sexual Assault Education and Prevention in their curriculums.

After sharing my #metoo story on Facebook my attacker reached out and apologized to me. He told me he was sorry and that at the time he was young, dumb, and uneducated. He said that if a sexual assault education program was in place at Strake, it would have made a difference in his mindset and maybe even his actions. 

His apology encouraged me to continue to use my experience to pursue all-boys schools to teach their students about sexual assault. Sexual assault can be prevented through education. We should not only be teaching our daughters and sons how to protect themselves, but we must also teach them what consent is.

If you went to Strake Jesuit your signature identifies the alumni support for the inclusion of sexual assault education and prevention at your alma mater.

 
Strake Jesuit’s mission statement is to “assist young men in their formation as leaders and as Men for Others through a program of rigorous college preparation in the tradition of the Society of Jesus.” By signing this petition you are supporting the idea that educating young men about sexual assault is an important part of forming “Men for Others.”

Thank you for taking the time to read this petition. Although I'm speaking directly to Strake Jesuit, I have included many members of the Catholic school community in Houston. This is not just a Strake problem, it's a social problem. We need to be teaching our youth to not only protect themselves and those around them, but also about the damage they themselves are capable of causing. 

St. Agnes has had a Sexual Assault Education program in effect for the past 4 years. After becoming aware of my story St. Agnes reached out to me directly with empathy and support. They are now looking to extend their sexual assault education. My hope is that the schools can work together to encourage and reinforce the necessity for these programs. If not already in place, I expect sexual assault education programs to be implemented at Strake Jesuit, St. Thomas, Duchesne, IWO, and St. Pius X in the upcoming year. Your students deserve the best educations they can get. That is why they attend your schools. I'm not here to point blame. I want to be a part of the solution to this problem. I'm here to help!

Please feel free to contact me at kelseylcaine@gmail.com. I'm already in talks with St. Agnes and I truly believe that if you all work together as a community you will be able to help protect your students from committing and becoming victims of sexual assault.

*****UPDATE 2/15/17******

Thank you for your support! The petition has now reached over 2,300 signatures!

The anonymous sexual assault reporting site was taken down by the students who created it, due to an overwhelming amount of hate speech that was anonymously sent to the site. This included threats directed at the St. Agnes students. The following quote was taken from a anonymous report from the site:

"Most girls at our school would be lucky to get raped by anyone."

This speaks volumes to the current culture regarding sexual assault at both Strake and St. Agnes. It is my hope that the St. Agnes and Strake administration address these very real problems.

Many people have reached out and asked what is included in the The Sexual Assault Education and Prevention Curriculum Outline that I created to further the St. Agnes Sexual Assault Education program that has been in place there for the past 4 years. At the request of John Fayhe this curriculum was also shared with Strake Jesuit and is now being taken into consideration. There is no reason why any information regarding Sexual Assault Education should not be made public. Here is a link to the outline that I created via google docs. Please click the link or copy/paste it into a new browser:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-CPBF4T-xRZSjLdVRBg4Hh4PYBP_FN7nauk8BVwpdl8/edit?usp=sharing

If you are an administrator at a school other than Strake or St. Agnes and want to talk to me in greater detail about the sexual assault petition, curriculum, or have questions in general please email me.

Thank you,
Kelsey Caine

*****UPDATE*****2/14/17 

Thank you all for your support! We have now gotten over 1, 580 signatures! 

Strake Jesuit administration contacted me today! I talked to John Fayhe the Strake Jesuit Assistant Principal for Student Affairs. Dean Dan Healey was not on the call and has made no comment. John Fayhe called me. He said he was in favor of the petition and that this is a conversation that he has wanted to happen for a long time. He believes that teaching about sexual assault will prevent sexual assault. He is in support of including Sexual Assault Education at Strake Jesuit! John said he didn't know what sexual assault education program should include, and asked for my help. I, of course, said I would love to help. I am now sending him the Sexual Assault Education and Prevention curriculum outline that I wrote for St. Agnes, as they asked me to assist them with creating additional sexual assault education material. I am extremely happy with John Fayhe's acceptance and support of the inclusion of teaching sexual assault to the Strake Jesuit students. I consider John Fayhe to be an alley to this movement, a hero, and a feminist. I still expect to speak to Dean Healey about how he has handled the students who spoke with him directly in regards to sexual assault in the past. I am open to hearing his explanation. I take sexual assault and the handling of sexual assault, especially when it comes to minors, incredibly seriously. To me this was a huge step forward!!!!"

EDITED 2/14/17 (Students have requested that I reword my statements about Dean Dan Healey for clarity. Please reread the updated information.) 

I have also been contacted by many Strake and St. Agnes students who say they have gone to the Strake administration in the past, reaching out about their own experiences of sexual assault by Strake students. These students started letter writing campaigns, gathered survivors to write their stories, and went to the Strake administration with these letters. This includes St. Agnes students who met personally with Strake Jesuit Dean Dan Healey (dhealey@strakejesuit.org) to share their survivor stories. Dan Healey met with these students and listened to their stories in full. Dean Healey was receptive to their requests and made it seem as though he would make an effort in terms of student awareness about sexual assault at Strake. I am unsure as to whether efforts have been made by Dan Healey. I would be happy to hear Dan Healey's side of the story. I have no way of knowing whether he has mishandled cases of sexual assault, made an effort towards sexual assault awareness, or is anything else he may or may not have done. Dan Healey should address these issues and then hopefully it will be clear to what has happened in the past. But I will say these brave women came to you, Dan Healey, for help, and you should have put a sexual assault education program in place after that. You were made aware of  the reality of situation and still no program was put in place. I would hope your students asking you for help would have been enough. It is disappointing that many of them graduated from Strake/St. Agnes thinking that their hard work and courage was not acknowledged. 

***UPDATE***** 2/13/17

Thank you all for your support! So far we have gotten over 1,400 signatures!

I have been told by St. Agnes that the Strake Jesuit administration will be contacting me later today. They want to hear what I have to say. This is amazing progress and has come from all of your support. I will keep you updated on anything that comes from our conversation and whether or not it takes place. 

***In addition to the petition the St. Agnes students have created a website for anonymously reporting sexual assault. I could not be more proud of the women who made this site. They are clearly academy women! I believe that anonymously reporting sexual assault on the site, may be, for many survivors the first place they feel comfortable saying they have been assaulted. I highly value what the anonymous nature of the site suggests, that it is scary, shameful, and hard to report sexual assault. I stand with the women who made the site, however, I believe that whoever has the ability should be encouraged to standup and say who they are and what was done to them. You are not alone. You are a survivor and should be seen as a hero for speaking out for justice. No one should hide the fact they have been sexually assaulted. Society has made victims feel ashamed for long enough. 

If you have been sexually assaulted and want to come forward please email me at kelseylcaine@gmail.com. I have been speaking to the St. Agnes staff and they want the students to know they are there to help any survivor. If you are a student who wants to report sexual assault and doesn't know how please email Elaine Eichelberger (SAA Dean of Students) at eeichelberger@st-agnes.org. She has given me confidence that she will do everything she can to aid students with any support they need. If you are a parent who has questions concerning sexual assault at St. Agnes or Strake please also email Elaine Eichelberger (SAA Dean of Students) at eeichelberger@st-agnes.org, she wants to answer your questions and give you insight into how you can help further. 

Here is a link to the anonymous reporting site: https://sjstoryforchange.wordpress.com/introduction/

****** UPDATE***** 2/12/17

However, I have been contacted by several St. Agnes students who have had the courage and self respect to shared their #metoo stories with me. These messages have included experiences of rape by Strake and St. Thomas students.

 

EDITED 2/14/17 (Students have requested that I reword my statements about Dean Dan Healey for clarity. Please reread the updated information.) 


I have also been contacted by many Strake and St. Agnes students who say they have gone to the Strake administration in the past, reaching out about their own experiences of sexual assault by Strake students. These students started letter writing campaigns, gathered survivors to write their stories, and went to the Strake administration with these letters. This includes St. Agnes students who met personally with Strake Jesuit Dean Dan Healey (dhealey@strakejesuit.org) to share their survivor stories. Dan Healey met with these students and listened to their stories in full. Dean Healey was receptive to their requests and made it seem as though he would make an effort in terms of student awareness about sexual assault at Strake. I am unsure as to whether efforts have been made by Dan Healey. I would be happy to hear Dan Healey's side of the story. I have no way of knowing whether he has mishandled cases of sexual assault, made an effort towards sexual assault awareness, or is anything else he may or may not have done. Dan Healey should address these issues and then hopefully it will be clear to what has happened in the past. But I will say these brave women came to you, Dan Healey, for help, and you should have put a sexual assault education program in place after that. You were made aware of  the reality of situation and still no program was put in place. I would hope your students asking you for help would have been enough. It is disappointing that many of them graduated from Strake/St. Agnes thinking that their hard work and courage was not acknowledged. 

This is not the behavior of "Men for Others." I know good men. Good men care when they are told about sexual assault and they seek justice. They are the men who have signed this petition. I want to say a sincere thank you to all of the students who went to the Strake administration with their experiences of sexual assault. You have paved the way for so many! Your bravery and hard work has not gone unnoticed. If you went to any administration with a case of sexual assault and feel the case was not handled justly please email me at kelseylcaine@gmail.com. If we stand together our voices will be heard. You are not alone. If you have a case where you think things were handled well, please also email me. I would love to know who the good people are within these systems that are actually there to provide guidance and help the students. 

 



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