I too have a child with complex ASD/PDA. We were fortunate and social care helped tremendously with our case, as did health , funding an assessment at the ENC. However, I am fully aware that the majority of cases don't get the recognition they deserve and instead take the cheaper option of 'blame the parents.'This is disgraceful conduct and elicits ignorance on their part. Shame on you services!
I feel strongly that this shouldn't happen to parents that just want the correct support for their children.