Make International Divorce & Protection Laws Possible for American Women Who Have Been Abused by A Foreign Spouse
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State Rep. Wayne Smith
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State Sen. Brandon Creighton

Make International Divorce & Protection Laws Possible for American Women Who Have Been Abused by A Foreign Spouse

    1. Margaret Drabing
    2. Petition by

      Margaret Drabing

      Cypress, TX

I was/am married to an Indian man in India, when I was a missionary & teacher overseas in South Korea. Almost immediately, the emotional/verbal/mental abuse started, & it started getting physical too (he kicked a door, hit the fridge). I was scared...& eventually left him, last March, coming back to the States. For nearly a year (from March to Dec last year), I tried to make our marriage work, putting up with control/emotional/verbal/mental abuse still, as we waited for his visa to come here to go through. I was fooled. When I started counseling in Dec, my eyes were opened & I realized my ex had abused me, so I decided to divorce him. Since Feb, he has stopped talking to me. We were applying for a visa, so the gov't knows we are married, but I cannot get a divorce here b/c I have been told that "my state has no jurisdiction over our marriage/him b/c he is not a citizen of the U.S, has no visa yet, & we didn't get married here, & he isn't in America right now." I don't know what to do. I have been contacting his family, & get an email about once every two months, IF THAT. Their communication is short, & almost "punishing," as if I AM the one who did something wrong (no apology either). He doesn't talk to me, only his dad does (control/punishment). I found his lawyers email & emailed him, but now he isn't even contacting me (prob advised not to). All I know is that he is going through the divorce, but it is slow...I know NO DETAILS. I can't afford a divorce lawyer or any international lawyer but without payment options. Sadly, there are no international laws to protect/help women who have been abused by spouses from another country, which is ridiculous!! All I know is that God is with me & He is my ONLY HOPE. I am still going to counseling, which is helping me A LOT. Overall, it has effected me in every way, though! It is emotionally draining...& it seems hopeless. All I can do is look to God to help me, for there is currently no help from man.

This is important because I know I am not the only one who is going through this. There needs to be help for women who have gone through my situation or are going through it.

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    1. Letter from Congressman Ted Poe

      Margaret Drabing
      Petition Organizer

      Congressman Poe informed me that he could not help me, & that I needed to contact a lawyer or a judge about this situation. Now we're back to square one. I am safe....but not fully, until my ex husband & I are fully divorced.

    2. Congressman Ted Poe's Response

      Margaret Drabing
      Petition Organizer

      He sent me a letter stating that he will contact the necessary department & get back to me in 30 days!! Just pray that it will go through!

    3. I faxed Congressman Ted Poe!

      Margaret Drabing
      Petition Organizer

      I faxed Congressman Ted Poe with the privacy form he asked for. This is one step in passing a law in America which would allow women (or men) who are married to spouses from other countries to divorce their abusive spouse in their native land of America! Halleluiah! Please pray that it goes through, & that Congressman Poe will read the paperwork & help us!

    4. Congressman Ted Poe contacted me about filing paperwork for this!

      Margaret Drabing
      Petition Organizer

      We are making progress! Congressman Poe asked me to fill out a "casework" paper on his site & fax it to him! THANK YOU GOD!!

    5. Reached 50 signatures

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    • Debbie Beard ALOHA, OR
      • over 2 years ago

      I went through similar with my husband though he wasnt the abusive one. His parents were ( and still are). There are too many hoops a person who is in an abusive marriage has to go through to get away and we need more assistance to help find a way out of this.

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    • Brigette Simec FONTANA, CA
      • over 2 years ago

      God bless you! Hope you are doing well.

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    • M B FAYETTEVILLE, NC
      • over 2 years ago

      I COMPLETELY understand your pain. I'm in a painful divorce from a Moroccan man who mentally, verbally, emotionally, and psysically abused me. I couldn't call 911 because I was under the constant threat of this man taking my child. I stood up and opt for divorce this man but without any visual evidence that all these type of abuse ever happened. The judge awarded this man unsupervised overnight visitations without any bond, and not enough preventive measurements to keep my child in this country. If I knew this, I should keep my mouth shut and put up with the abuse until at least my daughter knows how to talk or even remembers how her mother looks like.

      Now, this man is not contacting me in any shape or form because someone advised him not to do so. I'm telling you to do the same of not contacting him at all, because if you contact him, the court will see you as the problematic person.

      This NEEDS to stop NOW. My e-mail is adamaris75@yahoo.com and YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I also have 2 petitions for my daugher. Browse Bardo and you will see them.

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    • AME S UTRECHT, NETHERLANDS
      • over 2 years ago

      This way of treat women is the umpteenth example of cancer-paternalism! It also happens here in The Netherlands, and somebody was on TV to tell about this, and most important: to stop this male=destructive mentality towards women.

      This lasts too long already, about 6000 years inferior male damaging the first sex! Women are!

      ALL men are born from women! They give life to men, and what do they get? Destructive, inhuman treatment.

      On too many places there are too many inferior men who have to move away, so women, who are better in understanding these cases can handle in the right way.

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    • Marla Theocharides GRANGER, IN
      • over 2 years ago

      I went through the same situation and continue to fight. We are divorced now but my ex husband took my kids to the country of Cyprus and refuses to give them back. He has alienated both children from me and will not even teach my son (3 yrs old) English so he can not communicate with me. I wish you the best of luck in your fight!

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