Cardinal Dolan: Break bread with my family
  • Petitioned Bishop William Murphy

This petition was delivered to:

Diocese of Rockville Centre
Bishop William Murphy
Communications Director, Archdiocese of New York
Joseph Zwilling
President, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops
Cardinal Timothy Dolan

Cardinal Dolan: Break bread with my family

    1. Nicholas Coppola
    2. Petition by

      Nicholas Coppola

      Oceanside, NY

My name is Nicholas Coppola. My husband David and I need your help.

For almost a decade, I've been a Parishoner at St. Anthony's Roman Catholic Church in Oceanside, New York -- serving as a religious education instructor, lector, altar server, visitation minister for homebound members, as well as member of the Consolation Ministry. But after David and I got married, the Roman Catholic bishop forced our priest to strip me of all of my roles and responsibilities, just for marrying the man I love.

This rejection hurts my husband and me terribly, and sends a dangerous message to gay people of faith everywhere. It hurts the ministries of St. Anthony’s parish where I was so active. It also conflicts with some of the words of welcome used by church leaders over the past few weeks. That's why I'm asking Cardinal Timothy Dolan to break bread with my husband and me, so he can learn about my family, and perhaps reconcile the disconnect between the church's actions and words.

On Easter morning, Cardinal Dolan said that the Roman Catholic Church isn't "anti-anybody," stating the church has to do better at listening to and supporting gay people.

As the Archbishop of New York and the President of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, Cardinal Dolan is the highest-ranking Catholic leader in the country. I was personally heartened to hear the Cardinal’s words during that interview, but unfortunately, those words do not ring true for real life Catholics like me.

A few years ago, I suffered a back injury that prevented me from working. Participating in the ministries at St. Anthony's gave my life a purpose and connected me to an incredibly caring community. I have always been open and honest about my relationship with David, and many of our church's parishioners even attended our wedding. They support David and me. Why can't the Church hierarchy?

It’s time to replace debate with real dialogue. Please join David and me in asking Cardinal Dolan to break bread with our family -- at our home or his -- so he can see that we're just like any other American Catholic family.

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    Reasons for signing

    • Sydney Olney OSSINING, NY, NY
      • 7 months ago

      Love is not a choice.

    • Ronald Pavlacka CLERMONT, FL
      • 7 months ago

      Because what happened here is NOT the way Christ lived his life. He was all inclusive.

    • Muriel Merrill SKOWHEGAN, ME
      • 7 months ago

      Our son is gay and he just got married last July to his partner and we break bread with them so why not Cardinal Dolan and his partner!

    • Rob Pinto SOUTHBURY, CT
      • 7 months ago

      From an outsider's perspective, Nicholas seems to be a man of good morals and good faith. When Nicholas was at the local catholic church, he worked hard there. He was a highly active member of his community before he was wrongfully ostracized by the church and had an unfortunate back injury. Cardinal Dolan, you are a good man and I know you have it in your heart to break bread with Nicholas and his family. God Bless You!

    • Keala Noel PāHOA, HI
      • 8 months ago

      love is important to me


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