Take him from his abusive father and give him to his mother
  • Petitioned Ansaar A. Alkhaldi

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Ansaar A. Alkhaldi

Take him from his abusive father and give him to his mother

    1. Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
    2. Petition by

      Lori Alkhaldi (Trent)

      Champaign, IL

Giving back women's rights, mother's rights, and human rights. Doing what is justice; What is fair.


I am petitioning for my son because his father had been abusive toward me throughout our entire 1 year 2 month marriage. My husband controlled all the money; he wouldn't let me go any where on my own free will--I'd always have to "ask" his permission,otherwise he'd threaten me with divorce. I don't have any family where I live and at the time no friends--I wasn't allowed any! My husband actually went to the jail because he held a knife to me and was going to kill me. He ended up biting me on my left arm leaving a bruise. The police came and took pictures and took him to jail after hearing a recording how my husband said that I should be "hit in the face with a rock." I was frightened! After a couple days my husband's friend begged me to go back to him and I allowed my husband to talk to me and he threatened me that if I don't take him back and help get the charges dropped he would hurt me and my family, so I did. Well, 10 days after all that happened I found out I was pregnant, so if my husband killed me he would have killed an unborn baby or fetus some people would say. My husband made me look at though I was crazy, he even went to a mental health clinic with me and made me look as though I was crazy. I wasn't able to talk to the doctor and tell him the truth about what really happened. If I told, or if I didn't allow my husband to go in the doctor with me I would have been beat at home.

  During all that torture I started going to school, taking my prerequisets for nursing. I confided in one of my teachers whom actually tried to help by advising me ways I can handle my husband--but it never worked! It never worked because my husband didn't care.

My husband pushed me out of the car while i'm about 4 months pregnant and the car was moving. One time while I was in his garage doing "his" paperwork I came down the stairs and my husband grabbed me by my hair and banged my head onto on of the cars windshield. He let go of me and I had a cut on my forehead and my mouth was bleeding and swollen. I tried to leave his garage as I was crying, and my husband and his friend blocked the regular door so that I cannot leave, so I tried to go out the big garage door and my husband started lowering it very fast striking me in my left shoulder just missing my belly. I was about 6 months pregnant. My husband called the police trying to get me in trouble, but I showed the female officer my huge bruise and she wanted to arrest him no matter what;I cried and begged her not to in fear that my husband would harm me or my family later, so she didn't arrest him and sent me to the women's domestic violence shelter. My husband found me later and forced me to go back home, so I did, I didn't have a choice.

Recently, my husband and I had an argument over a clothes iron that his mother burned while she was visiting from Jordan. My husband insisted that I burned it because I asked for a new one. My husband grabbed my hair and was punching me;it felt like forever! So I started to swing my hands to get away from him and I did get away and ran to my bed room and went to close the door. He didn't get me, he said that I scratched him, but I didn't see where. He left and then came back with a new iron,cookies, and some fast food; all that to apologize for what he did. My husband always did nice things or bought me gifts to say he was sorry, he could never admit willingly that he was wrong. I accepted the items. Later, he was on the balcony and I went to make sure he was ok because he seemed as though something "medically" was wrong with him; he jumped up and grabbed my throat and dropped and ran out of the house. All this was about 2 months after giving birth. I noticed that he had bruised my eye. My husband brought the police to get his things and told the police that I had scratched him and I told the police that I was trying to protect myself because he was hurting me and he even bruised my eye, but the police didn't care about what happened. I went to live in a domestic violence shelter and took my son with me. 

After about 2 months (June 2012), my husband got a lawyer (top firm), and I couldn't get any lawyer. Finally, I got a pro bono lawyer in which losing my son to his abusive father. Until now I only have my now 8 month old on Wednesday's 9am-6pm and Fridays 5pm- Sunday 6pm. My son was exclusively breastfeeding and I was pumping and trying to give the milk to his father and he didn't even want to take it. I was very hurt and I have no income, nothing to help me in my case against him. My mother (in another state) has been helping with some of the legal fees but it's not easy for her as she has surgeries.

My court is in 8 days and I need as many supporters as I can get. This man, I think used me to have a child with him to keep him in US and to use my son as an "anchor baby." I even lost my health insurance because of him. My husband constantly abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally. I have more incidents but it would be a book if I had to describe in detail. I have all the classic signs of an abused woman. Before I was scared because all I knew was him. Now that I am away from him I have started to build friendships and try to move on with my life, but his torture and his presence is getting in the way. Because of him I cannot get a job. I am sure he knows people here in the community helping him legally. Even with all the emergency room visits I've had and the police reports the legal system does not want to prosecute him. This is not right or fair...it is injustice! He needs to pay for what he did to me.

I need everyone possible to help me in my cause. If you have been abused, or know someone who has, please take 2 minutes to sign my petition. 

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Ansaar A. Alkhaldi
I just signed the following petition addressed to: Ansaar A. Alkhaldi.

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Take him from his abusive father and give him to his mother

Giving back women's rights, mother's rights, and human rights. Doing what is justice; What is fair.
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Sincerely,

Sincerely,
[Your name]

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    News

    1. Exchange moved to Police Station

      Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
      Petition Organizer

      I just want everyone to know that "the baby exchange" was moved to the police station,FINALLY! I've been waiting for that to happen for 5 months now. My next court date was supposed to be November 28th but now I have no idea when it will be.. I need my protection order against him; he's been following me and intimidating me, and I am afraid for my safety and well-being. These orders are in place to protect the victims, not the abusers!!! I really need more petition signers... Please share and pass along!!

    2. Son sick thanks to father

      Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
      Petition Organizer

      I also wanted to add in here that Anwar canceled my sons doctor's appointment last Wednesday. I went down and got the report as to when and why the appointment was canceled. According to the doctor's notes Anwar brought my son to the doctor on Nov. 6th because my son had a rash on his back and wasn't confirmed whether or not it was bed bugs ( and that was the whole weekend and week my son was with his father.) Also, Anwar doesn't want to give my son the flu vaccine. Well, a couple hours upon picking my son up on Friday I was rushing him to the ER with a fever over 100 underarm. His temp was over 103 rectally in the ER. He has an ear infection. I did some research and if my husband gave my son the flu vaccine then it could have helped to prevent the infection. It is also said that when the children are around people who smoke they are more prone to get ear infections. I don't smoke but his father is a smokaholic and works as mechanic..even goes home smelling like all types of chemicals.

    3. Court on November 20th and 28th

      Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
      Petition Organizer

      I am going to court on the 20th because in case I need my friend to pick up my son instead of me. I am always intimidated when I am around my husband. Also, to get Ansaar's father to pay for the GAL. The 28th I am hoping and praying that the order gets dropped and my son stays in my care for good, especially considering all of the evidence of abuse my husband has inflicted on me.

    4. Ugghhh...not going fast enough!!

      Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
      Petition Organizer

      I found out that the Nov. 28th court date was to "try" to get my husbands' order of protection thrown out, not the custody or divorce case which is so ridiculous! I did not see my son for a whole week now because Anwar don't want to give my son to my friend, and the police couldn't (or wouldn't??) force him. I believe Anwar has some influence on the legal system here but I don't know what it is. Department of Children Services left MY son in MY care after they visited me in the domestic violence shelter.. So how can a judge who knows nothing about what's good for the child can overrule people who are professionals in childcare??? I really don't understand it, at all!! When my lawyer broke his leg he left the court on Oct.10th up to Anwar's lawyer to go and get the case continued. Anwar's lawyer delayed it until almost 2 months later,WHY? I have reason to believe that Anwar and his lawyer are trying to drag out the case as much as possible so that Anwar may have the chance to stay in US

    5. Court postponed...

      Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
      Petition Organizer

      Well, due to the fact that my lawyer broke his leg, my case is being postponed. No! I am not happy--I am furious! I don't even know when my order of protection, and custody cases are going to be,but my divorce case is going to be November 28th.. That is injustice in of itself! I have to be married to him another month and half! My husband should be deported because he abused me...I really don't understand how or why he's getting away with this...

      I Also forgot to tell my supporters that I do have pictures and witnesses to the bruises..and I have voice recordings about how he verbally and emotionally abused me..but yet the judicial system still doesn't care! I don't have another country to go to,he does. He belongs in Jordan..actually he belongs in jell,but I'll let God deal with that part!

    6. Reached 25 signatures
    7. Only 5 days left until court! Please Sign & Pass!!

      Lori Alkhaldi    (Trent)
      Petition Organizer

      My court is less than a week away!! Please everyone sign and post my petition to your walls on FaceBook and any where else you network. I want to thank everyone who already signed for their support. We need to put a stop to this violence instead of turning our heads and pretending we don't know what's going on. People, especially women and children are seriously getting abused or even killed because they are afraid to come forward.

    8. Reached 10 signatures

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    • larry karny INDIAPOLIS, IN
      • almost 2 years ago

      unspeakable man to use baby tear away from mother like that

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    • VANESSA TRAHAN HOUMA, LA
      • almost 2 years ago

      I am a Survivor of Domestic Violence also....I have been through many of the same things Lori has been thru..This "Man" should not have her child the lil Boy should be with his Mother..Just because he has more money than her and can afford the higher paid attorneys should not be the reason to take her child..She has the Evidence needed to Support her claims and just because he had TOTAL CONTROL over her previously Should NOT be a just cause for thid sction..That is how Abusers work...They want to control the money ,make it so you have No Friends or Family and Many other things.......This Lady needs Help to get her child from this person..That Child is not a piece of Property for him to remain to have Control over Her.............DO WHAT IS RIGHT AND HELP HER.........

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    • beth malascalza NEWARK, DE
      • almost 2 years ago

      I am dealing with a similar fight!

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    • lenka douglas HARLOW, UNITED KINGDOM
      • almost 2 years ago

      because I am human and it must be important to every human

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    • vanessa williams EL CERRITO, CA
      • almost 2 years ago

      because i dont believe any women should have suffer abuse..

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