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Tobias Fangor
Silver Spring, MD
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Tobias commented on the article |I also loved growing up in the Bay Area (south bay, with almost every weekend from 12 onward in San Francisco), but if you're concerned about cost it's not exactly the most affordable place to live. Gorgeous in so many ways, a place that really isn't like any other, but also one of the most expensive areas in the country.
What I do when considering moving to a new area is to go to the grocery store, the local park, and any other place I might be spending time. I watch how people interact, see if I can find any other families that look like mine. My partner and I will be slightly more flirtatious than normal (not obscene, we're both rather reserved). If no one seems to notice or care then that's usually a good sign. It's not an exact science, but it's served me well in a variety of states and countries.
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Tobias commented on the article |Justin's mom on Queer as Folk comes very close. Was not thrilled about her son's sexuality at first (and particularly not happy about Brian Kinney), but was marching with PFLAG after some prodding by the mother of all gay mothers, Debbie Novotny. Unless you were thinking specifically of non-cable shows.
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Tobias commented on the article |Does Milo consider herself part of the trans community? There is a certain segment that consider themselves "normal people" and want nothing to do with the GLB OR T movement(s) as they feel that they are not "subversive", only individuals with an unidentified form of intersex condition. The most common examples of this are probably those who promote Harry Benjamin Syndrome rather than GID/Gender Incongruence (depending on whether we're going with DSM IV or proposed DSM V terms).
I still can't quite figure out any reason why she'd be against gay marriage unless she doesn't consider herself a lesbian and has managed to rationalise her relationship to herself somehow. It'd take quite a few mental leaps, but she certainly wouldn't be the first person to do so.
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Tobias commented on the article |The sad part is that this is a very common reaction to *any* child standing up for themselves. The school bully can shove your head into a toilet every day for the entire year, but if you finally decide you've had enough in the last week of class and fight back YOU are the one who's considered to have a problem. "Sit down, shut up, and take it" seems to be the current motto when it comes to schoolchildren.
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Tobias commented on the article |You don't seem to be getting the point. For some people sex ISN'T as natural as love. There is an entire portion of the population who have no sex drive and are perfectly happy with that. Please read the FAQ at Asexuality.org before you continue to respond as if they're somehow not fully human. Many of the questions and answers should be recognisable as they're almost the exact same ones we've asked or been asked as gay men.
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Tobias commented on the article |
With all due respect, assuming that everyone who has ever existed has a strong sex drive is rather dismissive of asexual people. I don't presume to know whether or not the men in question were sexually active, they're long dead anyway so it doesn't much matter. However, brushing aside the idea of them being celibate simply because we personally need (or at least desirie) sex as part of romantic love is just as bad as heterosexuals brushing aside the idea of having a same sex partner because to them romantic love requires a member of the opposite sex.
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To be fair, the men could have been partners and still celibate. They could have belived very strongly in their vows or simply been asexual.
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Tobias commented on the article |I tend to agree, but there's very little chance of convincing students that one of their biggest GSA events isn't doing anything. May as well support them, especially since the "breaking the silence" after events can be fairly helpful. A high school near me had guest speakers come in to talk about bullying and prejudice. My own school held a day of activities instead of silence because we had too many students who wanted to participate. If done well it can be used as a stepping off point for meaningful dialogue.
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Tobias commented on the article |
Not nearly as likely as any of us would like to believe. It's amazing how much sway parents have even over rebellious teenagers when it comes to bigotry. This is particularly true when the reason for bigotry is religious, you can't just send the kid to school and hope they'll learn differently when every other aspect of their life is entrenched in a world where we're considered fundamentally evil.
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Tobias commented on the article |Aside from the girls in boys clothing double standard, there's also the rather interesting tradition of high school and college atheletes wearing women's clothing for laughs. My district can't possibly have been the only one to have Powder Puff football week where the varsity football team wore cheerleading uniforms while the cheerleaders played flag football. It's all fine and dandy for a man to wear a dress as long as he's considered masculine enough to look ridiculous.
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